What do you all think I should do? I packed mine and the boy's stuff up and moved out on tuesday. I talked to my husband Tuesday night. The conversation went something like this....... He was SHOCKED & (crying) that I had actually moved out. He was apologetic (arent they all). He wants me and the boys to move back in he doesnt want to be away from us he claims he loves us. I told him you don't treat the people you love like that. Then I proceeded to tell him he needs help, counseling , doctor, etc. That what he is doing is a called a cycle of abuse passed down from father to son, and if he does not break it his children will in turn treat their wives or girlfriends the same way. It goes father to son, father to son, father to son. we had a very long lenghthy conversation (1 1/2 hours). I told him the boy's did not want to come back. I had told them daddy said he was sorry, and was not going to do it anymore, he would get help. my boy's said he is lying he's just trying to trick us. This is from an 8 year old and 5 year old ( almost 6). So here are my stipulation's and they must be adhered too. 1. You must go to the doctor and find out if you are Bi-polar and get and take any medications to control this problem. Indefinatly. If you stop taking this medication because you think you are better I will pack up and move again. Permenatly! 2. You must get counseling ( me and the boy's will also seek counseling) 3.You also must stop and think for a minimum of 3 minutes before speaking and think if what you are about to say is it nice, and if it's not then you had better phrase it properly! 4. If you even attempt to pick up another object like you are going to throw it, again I will leave immediatly! 5. If you call me anything but your wife. I will leave immediatly! 6. Actually I have a better idea if you do not follow all of the above, YOU WILL LEAVE IMMEDIATLY! OK, so those are my stipulations what do you think? should I give him a second chance? or should I just make him go live with his mother and I move back into the house? Any more stipulations I should add? Or should I just tell him to F#$K OFF! Thanks for all the help you guy's have been great!!!!!