DiAnna
Political Half-Breed
sounds like he was making poor choices and paying dearly for them....if he believe the mother unfit...he should have taken action to get his kids...i always hear people slamming the ex but not wanting to take custody
I took them. One was 3 years old..the other 9. But I sent them back when they said "you are not our mother. You will never be our mother" and I busted them with drugs in their bedrooms (2 boys). The drugs I could have tried to deal with, with alateen. The words they said to me...sober....was a knife in my heart. Fuck them and the skank who bore them. One is a father and is age 27. The other is a bum and won't work, and he is now 33. They both still live with their skanky mother. Probably all selling drugs.
I seriously feel your pain. I was you. I knew when I married my present husband that he had a slutty, alcoholic ex and three kids who'd been allowed to run wild. He knew I had two kids and an ex who thought CS was a suggestion. We knew the baggage we brought to the marriage and accepted it.
Two months into our marriage, his ex dumped all three kids on our doorstep with paper bags brimming with their clothes. Then she disappeared.
Those kids resented me, resented my children, screamed "I hate you" on a weekly basis, ran away in their teen years and caused us all manner of misery. But you know what? They were children, children who had been abandoned like garbage and given to a woman they'd never seen in their lives to raise. We were the adults. Nobody said it would be easy, and it wasn't.
Bottom line, all five kids now have children of their own. Yes, one has a prison record but is doing well now. My husband's ex finally kicked her alcohol problem, found god, and she and I are actually friends.
Through all the years of heartache, we did it for the children and because it was our job as their parents to do the best we could for them. But trust me when I say that I know what you went through, and how you felt. I give you props for your effort.