dilloduck
Diamond Member
So, Dan, if your spouse/partner/lover decided to have sex with someone else you would forgive her because ........... she still loves you, you still love her, etc. My question is this? If a relationship is rock solid and doing well, why would either partner even remotely think about having sex with someone else? So, for me, when one person cheats it is usually just a symptom of some other underlying problem in the relationship.
I think a lot of people feel that way and women will even question themselves as to their desirabilitly and adequacy. Sometimes it's just the wiring.
I think there's a lot to the desirability and adequacy part. If what they already had was desirable, valuable and at least adequate, why would men feel the need to go elsewhere? Cheating seems like a sort of rejection and a statement about the worth maybe not of the partner, but definitely the relationship. Which gets interpreted personally.
again-----wiring. Discount the power of chemistry if you wish but pushing this all off on men being stupid or weak won't give you an answer.