Cheating on your Lover

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    Cheating .. defined as having sex, of any kind with someone other than your lover.

    My point of few is that there is no good excuse for it.

    Yet the question always comes down to this..

    "Should we split up or stay together"

    My answer for the victim .. "split up, I doubt you'll get over it but I'll support you either way"

    My answer for the cheater.."Dumb Ass"
     
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    Wow. Just get the hell out, huh? One and done?

    Your thread title says "lover," not "spouse." Do you draw a distinction? I mean, two single people can easily choose to split over many different things. That's the beauty of being single.

    Marrieds have to be a little more flexible. Then there's the male-female difference. Men can and often do have sex utterly devoid of any emotion or feeling with their partner. Women tend to be more emotionally invested before becoming a lover or spouse. (I know there are many who don't, but I'm speaking generally.)

    If a husband has a weak moment, would you advise the wife to leave him? He may still love her, and she him, and their marriage may still be perfectly salvageable. I'd be careful about dishing out that kind of advice so quickly.
     
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    I am an honest man of integrity, if you are one of my lovers I will never cheat on you or the others.

    Rock solid word on that.

    Other parts are rock solid too.
     
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    My point of view.

    If they will cheat on you once...they will cheat on you again. Not worth your time (learned this the hard way.) Cheating is a definate deal breaker IMO.
     
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    Sorry Guys.. going with the Lady on this one..
     
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    I've been on both ends of that one. It sure makes for some high drama. Maybe that's why some people like putting all their eggs in one basket.
     
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    All right I can't stand it anymore,

    Will you marry me Lumpy?
     
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    So, what if one or the other is on the disabled list long term (like forever, and only where sex is concerned) and they are in a committed relationship, and the other is not on the disabled list? Does the non disabled have to stare down the barrel of a lifetime of celibacy even if she or he feels a financial and emotional responsibility to stay in said committed relationship? Its a hard world for cut and dried pronouncements.
     
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    When you're single and you have an understanding of sexual loyalty and one of you breaks it .. that's it .. no trust.. it's over.. (still up to them.. I just wouldn't stand for it)

    On the husband wife thing.. I'm not saying they should split up, I'm saying it up to them but the odds of trust being renewed.. pretty slim.

    Also.. I think guys get just as emotionally involved as the ladies. There is something about guys ego's though.. they may not really want her but they don't want any other guy have her, I don't know if the Ladies feel the same way..
     
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    It's all chemistry Lumpy----get out your test tubes. :lol:
     
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