can a child be properly raised with two gay parents? - no bigot crap please

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    What are the real long term effects of being raised by two gay parents? Obviously there are kids who become successful no matter the home, but I am talking about what gives the best chances. I have read 'studies' that argue for both sides of the debate, but I don't really trust the researchers in this area because the chance for bias is so high and because there will never be a formula that proves it right wrong.

    Personally it seems very difficult to me for a kid to be raised properly in a house like this. The idea of daughters with 'daddy issues' gets joked about a lot, but it is a real problem and Id on't think no matter how much love came from two lesbian parents that this essential need will be made up for. There is also overwhelming statistics on issues with boys being raised by single moms in terms of crimes and other violent behaviour, and I don't see two women fixing this because the essential male role model isn't there. The downfalls run along the same path for a two men household. Boys often de velop serious issues in regards to women when their is no motherly precense around and they never became close to a woman while growing up. I also think kids see how their family is done and view that as 'natural' and I wonder how much that effects them when they start to envision their own family.

    I think a non-'all gays will burn in hell' debate on this could be very interesting and I would like to hear from people who deal with this often or have done more research/thought into it.
     
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    I am against Homosexual marriage. I believe Homosexuals are sinning by practicing their sexual actions.

    Having said that, there is little reason to believe that a loving couple, of any sexual combination, can not, if they want to, raise children successfully.

    I am NOT opposed to adoption for Homosexuals. I do not oppose Homosexuals from teaching or any other child intense field.

    Just as those fields screen for potential problems from all other people, they need to be honest and screen homosexuals to ensure the person is not a looney tunes.

    Can there be problems with homosexual couples? Of course there can, just as there can with straight couples. And hopefully adoption agencies are honestly screening for those tell tales.

    It is not my place to deny a child or a couple a loving environment with child. When it comes to adoption that is the job of the agency running the program.
     
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    Of course gays can be good parents, But just like heteros they can be shitty parents too,

    As long as they don't do drugs, they are ok by me. Druggies should not raise children - gay or straight.
     
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    Define properly.
     
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    My friend who was raised by two lesbians has a good job, is a great father, and a very good person. SO yes, they can be good parents.

    I was watching Rosie's special on her gay cruise and they featured gay men who had first adopted two children who's parents were drugs addicts(different parent), a year later they adopted one of the child's brother and sister after finding out they actually had siblings who were stuck in foster care, a few years later they the other child they had biological mother who was drug addict had another child and they adopted that one also. They are adopting the children people don't want, so why stop them from doing so.
    And like Chanel said heterosexual and homosexual parents can be bad parents and it has nothing to do with their sexual preferences.
     
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    The question is not whether it CAN be done but whether it SHOULD be done. In my opinion, no matter how good a gay person is, it is terribly selfish to want to raise a child in that environment. I believe in their struggle for "equality" they set a terrible precedent by raising a child in an incredibly confusing environment.
    It is not up for debate which method is better. It is already clear that it is better to have straight parents than gay guardians. From the moment they start learning, they are taught that gay unions are equal to legit marriages. The questions that arise in a child's mind must be horribly frustrating as outside influences begin to implant in the child's mind. Children should be focused on developing their personalities and skills while receiving balanced love from a mother and father in their highly impressionable youth.
    They shouldn't be forced to grow up with guardians forcing an agenda on them. And it IS forced, believe you me. Even if they aren't forceful people. The fact that they think it is ok to raise youth in the gay environment is arrogant, selfish and wrong.
    Arrogant because they think they know better than thousands of years of history proving their position wrong. Selfish because they do this trying to prove something, taking advantage of the impressionable youth's state of mind. Wrong because deep down inside everyone's heart, they know it is a poisonous environment.
     
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    The answer is yes. It may be more difficult in some aspects, but the child is still better off than in some heterosexual situations.
     
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    speaking of arrogant, selfish and wrong...
     
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    it is just as likley to have good results as any other environment....
     
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