See what I mean?
No interest in discussing the topic, is there? We either tell stories or discuss it hypothetically.
Hypothetically, life circumstances can bring some people to a crossroads where cheating on a spouse is a distinct possibility. No one talks about this honestly unless they want to wear a scarlet letter A on their forehead.
Very well said, Jalu, and thank you for saying it, too.
Absolutely fidelity, if one believes the experts, at least, is rather rare in either gender.
Being completely honest about such an intimate detail in one's life,
in this venue?
Nah!
We have people here with the maturity level of junior high school students.
They could no more handle adults talking honestly about such things than they can handle differences of opinion about things of a far less intimate nature.
I'll tell what I presume though...
I presume there is probably not a single person on this board over 40 who has not EVER cheated on somebody..either a boy/girlfriend, a spouse or a long term relationship.
Perhaps they never consumated their infidelity, but the infidelity is really the mind games of people just starting to mix it up, anyway, isn't it?
Seems to me the sex is the merely the final act of infidelity, not the entirety of it.
As William so nicely put it when trying to describe relationships in trouble:,
... on their way down anyway and divorce is on the horizon, it's only adultery in the barest of technical senses.
Few of us, I suspect, have not taken refuge in such rationalizations to justify our own transgressions from our own sense of who we want to imagine we really are.
