Christians use, as “proof,” that Jesus said you must believe in him to get to heaven. I’ve had this thrown in my face by Christians numerous times: They say, “well, you know that Jesus said the only way to the Father is through the son.” As if that proves anything.
It's interesting that many use the verse, "No one came come to the Father except through me" as "No one goes to heaven..."
Also, Jesus said, "No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them."
Aramaic etymology points out that 'come' more closely means to follow after, often used in the context of discipleship. Jesus said no one could be his disciple unless they were willing to leave spouse, mother, father, family, riches, etc.
Another puzzling passage from Exodus is how the community found God so overwhelming they asked Moses to simply tell them what God was saying.
Jesus also said the Kingdom of God was in the reach of everyone. It seems likely the Hebrew Bible may feel the same about anyone can walk in God's ways.
Where am I going with all of this? Grin. I hardly know. What seems most likely given context, etc. is discipleship in this life, which has nothing to do with the afterlife. I can say I do my best to walk in the ways of God, to walk in the ways Jesus taught. However, like the people in Moses' time, it is more than likely I could not/cannot bear the full presence of God. As I chose family--husband, parents, children--nor was I one to leave all this behind and focus solely on Jesus, wherever he leads.
Therefore, if some (and I hope it is very few) Christians are telling you that you will not see a heavenly afterlife or will not see God, then the vast majority of us will be right there beside you. The vast majority walk in the Way (Hodos), but which is a far cry from God being our one and only sole focus and that we gave up
everything else in order to maintain that full focus. That type of focus a person needs to be
drawn to by God, and in Christianity, by Jesus. I feel, according to scripture, I walk in the Way. The rich young man in one of the Gospel stories was doing the same thing. But like me, he did not give up everything else to be in the continual presence of God (or Jesus).
What say you from the Jewish perspective?