When my wife decided to go to work when our youngest was smaller, I worked days and she worked nights. When the youngest started school, She sent them to school in the morning and I picked her up in the afternoon. The same with my son. The oldest was 15 and could watch the other two in the hour or so it took me to get home. We worked that for many years. I taught during the day and she worked a call center at night. We also did the same for my grandsons when they came to live with us when their father abandoned them and my daughter. I worked day while my daughter worked early mornings for TSA. My wife stayed home with the young ones until I picked them from pre-school and school in the afternoon. I had my youngest as a teen, so she helped out immensely. No wonder she doesn't want kids as she helped raise her nephews already.
When they were all out of the house, my wife shifted to days and I took a job working nights, but no one was at home as my oldest got married again and the younger one went off to college and the Army. During COVID, our shifts overlapped by an hour or so, and we both worked in our basement offices, as we were both in call centers.
You can make it work if you try. When we couldn't make it work because I got sick, she and I both retired.