Anguille
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Members of my family were adopted. Had the birth mothers claimed that for their peace of mind, they did not want our adopted family members in our family for religious reasons, they would have been doing an extremely selfish thing, IMO. Fortunately none of them did and our family is intact.I don't agree in the least. Who has the right to decide anyone's religion? That is each person's personal choice.Many adoption agencies ask the birth mother if she wants her child to be adopted by a Catholic, Protestant, or Jewish Parents, or if it doesn't matter to them. The person that is giving up that child is entitled to make that choice, don't you think? They carried the baby for 9 months and chose not to abort him/her, so deciding if their baby is adopted by whatever religion they may follow (or none at all) is fair imo.
I repeat what I said about having compassion for the child who is abandoned and making sure that only the best interests of the child play into the choice of adoptive parents. Imposing the birth mother's choice of religion is certainly not in the best interest of the child. I'm not even sure it really serves the best interest of the religion chosen. It makes it look as if no one would choose that religion unless indoctrinated into it from a young and impressionable age.
Saying the infant of a Catholic birth mother should only be raised by Catholics is the same as saying whites cannot adopt blacks, blacks can't adopt Asians and Asians can't adopt whites.
The best interest of the child is the only thing to be considered in selecting his/her adoptive parents.
Well, you have the right to your opinion. But as someone who has close ties to people that have gave up babies for adoption, and have relatives and close friends that have adopted, I would say that peace of mind is also a concern for the birth mother. Knowing the baby she gave up will be raised in a home with the same religion as her is not too much to ask, if that's what she chooses. If the birth mother doesn't care, then the baby goes to any family. The agencies screen these families for years before they can adopt, so most likely where ever the baby ends up, it will be in a loving home. And again, we are talking about the MOTHERS CHOICE, not an entire attitude of all who give up babies for adoption. Some mothers don't care what religion (if any) the child goes to, as long as it's a loving home. And that's great too.
But, the mother carried the baby to full term, and should be able to decide if she wants it raised in her religion type home or not, imo.
A woman who is giving up her child for adoption can find peace of mind knowing that in this great country we have adoption agencies who will do their best to find her child a good home. That is all the peace of mind a birth mother can hope for and should require if her true interests are the child's welfare. Trying to control the child's life after she has relinquished all responsibility for it is just being self centered and small- minded.
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