What Is A Marriage Worth?

[GLASNOST]

Some people are married and some people are single. We all have had good times and we have had bad times. We are all alive. We survive. Is survival the goal of existence? Is it living as long as possible what we strive for? Is it a failure then when we die?

I am in the process of a divorce after 20 years of marriage. It feels like a failure but some say that I ought to think of it as a success and that 20 years is “a good run”. They’re probably right. What would I have done those 20 years if I were not married to her? Been married to someone else? Been single? My wife turned out to be a really shit person but I wasn’t fully aware of it the whole 20 years. Perhaps it’s the knowing of it that’s the problem. If I didn’t find out I suppose I’d have gone to my grave feeling good. Maybe we expect too much of relationships and we are unwilling to “roll with the punches” and take it as it comes. Many years ago a friend of mine use to say, “I had a silver dollar once but I spent it”. In other words, “So what?” I think it’s time for me to “roll with the punch”. Those of you who are divorced, what do you think?

 

[Rambunctious]

There is life after divorce.... don't do anything big for a year or two...

 

[GLASNOST]

There is life after divorce.... don't do anything big for a year or two...

I hear ya'.

 

[WelfareQueen]

Some people are married and some people are single. We all have had good times and we have had bad times. We are all alive. We survive. Is survival the goal of existence? Is it living as long as possible what we strive for? Is it a failure then when we die?

I am in the process of a divorce after 20 years of marriage. It feels like a failure but some say that I ought to think of it as a success and that 20 years is “a good run”. They’re probably right. What would I have done those 20 years if I were not married to her? Been married to someone else? Been single? My wife turned out to be a really shit person but I wasn’t fully aware of it the whole 20 years. Perhaps it’s the knowing of it that’s the problem. If I didn’t find out I suppose I’d have gone to my grave feeling good. Maybe we expect too much of relationships and we are unwilling to “roll with the punches” and take it as it comes. Many years ago a friend of mine use to say, “I had a silver dollar once but I spent it”. In other words, “So what?” I think it’s time for me to “roll with the punch”. Those of you who are divorced, what do you think?

I got divorced after 20 years of marriage and 25 years together. It sucked but it also needed to happen. It took me a few months to grieve and I thought I was done. Not so. Give yourself a year or two.
For me, I found a new woman who truly is the love of my life. We have been together now over ten years. The first marriage seems like a different lifetime.

Life goes on. The ship that was your marriage has sailed over the horizon. Let it go. You're on a different and hopefully better journey now.

 

[Winco]

Some people are married and some people are single. We all have had good times and we have had bad times. We are all alive. We survive. Is survival the goal of existence? Is it living as long as possible what we strive for? Is it a failure then when we die?

I am in the process of a divorce after 20 years of marriage. It feels like a failure but some say that I ought to think of it as a success and that 20 years is “a good run”. They’re probably right. What would I have done those 20 years if I were not married to her? Been married to someone else? Been single? My wife turned out to be a really shit person but I wasn’t fully aware of it the whole 20 years. Perhaps it’s the knowing of it that’s the problem. If I didn’t find out I suppose I’d have gone to my grave feeling good. Maybe we expect too much of relationships and we are unwilling to “roll with the punches” and take it as it comes. Many years ago a friend of mine use to say, “I had a silver dollar once but I spent it”. In other words, “So what?” I think it’s time for me to “roll with the punch”. Those of you who are divorced, what do you think?

Family Values.
Do (R) preach it, but don't follow it.

Such as:

1). Divorce....you are living proof of TDS. Preach Values.... Never Live by such Values.

 

[WelfareQueen]

Family Values.
Do (R) preach it, but don't follow it.

Such as:

1). Divorce....you are living proof of TDS. Preach Values.... Never Live by such Values.View attachment 1177807

You really are a douche bag.

 

[GLASNOST]

... The first marriage seems like a different lifetime.

That's what I want to hear.

 

[HikerGuy83]

Family Values.
Do (R) preach it, but don't follow it.

Such as:

1). Divorce....you are living proof of TDS. Preach Values.... Never Live by such Values.View attachment 1177807

If I was that dad, I'd explain that it's not his job to judge. That's in the bible too.

You don't support DJT as the father of the year.

Does this kid ask his teachers if they committing adultery, fornicating or are gay? And if they are, is he going to transfer out of their class or refuse to follow their instructions?

Dad needs to help his children understand that motes and beams have meaning.

 

[GLASNOST]

Family Values.
Do (R) preach it, but don't follow it.

Maybe you think this is a political thread? Take it somewhere else, Bonzo.

 

[GLASNOST]

You really are a douche bag.

I think he really is, yes.

 

[Winco]

You really are a douche bag.

Met my future Wife in 1977 at 16.
Been married to date.

One Daughter, now 32, career professional owning 2 houses, one in Vegas, rented, one in SA, Owned.
2 Grandboys, 3rd on the way.

Son, sorry my son, passed from cancer at age 11.
I miss you buddy, meet you in Heaven.


Sure, I missed out on all the ******* around you claim to have, but didn't I do the Christian Thing?
I'm very proud of my loyalty, versus the trump loyalty. LLOLLLLL. So easy to beat.
Many families absolutely FALL APART after the death of a child, but NOT us, we have Family Values.

 

[Care4all]

"To have and to hold, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part...."

That's a pretty strong pledge....

Do all you can do to save it, if possible...try to be friends again....it's easier to forgive and forget the short comings of a close friend vs someone you love or loved....

Either way, good luck....

sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, sometimes it is....

 

[BULLDOG]

For those who ask why a divorce costs so much, the answer is because they are worth it.

 

[MarathonMike]

Family Values.
Do (R) preach it, but don't follow it.

Such as:

1). Divorce....you are living proof of TDS. Preach Values.... Never Live by such Values.View attachment 1177807

Met my future Wife in 1977 at 16.
Been married to date.

One Daughter, now 32, career professional owning 2 houses, one in Vegas, rented, one in SA, Owned.
2 Grandboys, 3rd on the way.

Son, sorry my son, passed from cancer at age 11.
I miss you buddy, meet you in Heaven.


Sure, I missed out on all the ******* around you claim to have, but didn't I do the Christian Thing?
I'm very proud of my loyalty, versus the trump loyalty. LLOLLLLL. So easy to beat.
Many families absolutely FALL APART after the death of a child, but NOT us, we have Family Values.

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The OP was asking advice from those who are divorced and you chose to troll his thread not only with your high horse "Christian Values" lecture but you OF COURSE had to drag your hatred of Trump and his supporters in as well. Arrogant and classless.

 

[Muhammed]

For those who ask why a divorce costs so much, the answer is because they are worth it.

The Divorce Industrial Complex needs money.

 

[Votto]

The Divorce Industrial Complex needs money.

It is a head scratcher as to why the state is even involved in marriage since marriage was a religious insitution.

I mean, why the hell can't polygamists marry buy gays can? Hmm? Is it because polygamy if "yucky"?

No, it's because they spend all their money and time on raising huge families and not giving it to the political hacks that give you a thumbs up or down on marriage, and then proceed to tell you how legally your life will go based on that marriage.

It's just crazy.

Take state out of marriage, and what you will wind up with is ONLY religious folk who are sincere in their faith getting married, as all the divorce lawyers can go jump off a bridge. If it happens, then divorce will become a rare thing instead of half of society.

 

[1srelluc]

For those who ask why a divorce costs so much, the answer is because they are worth it.

Any of my peers that are still working (save running their own businesses) have one thing in common.....A divorce in their late 30s or so.

 

[GLASNOST]

It is a head scratcher as to why the state is even involved in marriage

Good question.

since marriage was a religious insitution.

But is it?

 

[Blaster]

I'm not married but my parents have been married for 48 years and are still going strong.

 

[DGS49]

For men who have the means to do it, serial monogamy is the preferred lifestyle. But don't leave destruction in your wake; separate amicably and fairly. For Democrats (who don't actually believe in marriage) to criticize Trump's marital lifestyle is just another manifestation of TDS.

Nothing in the Bible demands that GOVERNMENTS feed the poor, house the homeless, care for the sick, etc. It is only moral phonies who vote for socialist candidates and believe that they are being "charitable" by demanding that these worthy tasks be done with OPM.

Nothing in the Bible even suggests that sovereign nations have an obligation to admit outsiders who reject their core values (NOTE: Democrats have no core values), hate their customs, and intend to live in their own bubbles with similarly displaced people. Rejecting them is appropriate. Getting rid of the trouble-makers is an imperative. Diversity is NOT a strength; unity is a strength.

Married 52+ years, I have nothing to advise the OP. He seems to be young enough to start a new life, which is all one can ask for. It's better for a man than a woman; that much is clear.