Who Here is Happily Married?

[WorldWatcher]

Here's an article filled with lots of links to studies. Married men are healthier, richer, and yes, happier.

Why marriage is good for men

Brad Wilcox examines claims and data on finances, happiness, and health to challenge the idea that marriage is bad for men.

aibm.org

I'm just going to point out the authors name is "Brad".

Should anyone named "Brad" really be writing for real men?

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[Lockback]

I don't get saying "I don't love you anymore". I'm not trying to humble-brag; I really don't understand it. You vowed to love. That's an obligation. So seriously, they thought their marriage was going to run on vibes and feelings all the time?

I don't get it either.
I was totally gobsmacked, just devastated. I didn't see it coming at all.
When we went through marriage counseling, my wife copped a real attitude, which was completely unlike her. She often simply flat-out refused to do what the counselor requested.
After we separated, I had to go back to the house to do some painting to prepare it for sale. I walked into the kitchen and noticed a coffee maker in the kitchen.
My wife never drank coffee.
The counselor told me it was her professional opinion that my wife was having an affair.
I think that became pretty clear.

 

[SweetSue92]

I don't get it either.
I was totally gobsmacked, just devastated. I didn't see it coming at all.
When we went through marriage counseling, my wife copped a real attitude, which was completely unlike her. She often simply flat-out refused to do what the counselor requested.
After we separated, I had to go back to the house to do some painting to prepare it for sale. I walked into the kitchen and noticed a coffee maker in the kitchen.
My wife never drank coffee.
The counselor told me it was her professional opinion that my wife was having an affair.
I think that became pretty clear.

Honestly, maybe the whole problem began with her not drinking coffee? j/k That's terrible, but glad you found your happiness

 

[Lockback]

Honestly, maybe the whole problem began with her not drinking coffee? j/k That's terrible, but glad you found your happiness

Yep, better late than never.
I consider myself a pretty good judge of character, which is why I married her as opposed to several others who had wanted me to marry them.
As it turned out, I was apparently wrong. Really wrong. Not only did she apparently have an affair on me but I know for fact after she got remarried, she cheated on him too because I know the guy she was having the affair with.
I found out years later that in 2020 she died. And not long ago, her widowed husband died too. Both were in their 60s. Weird.

 

[Anathema]

So, are you married? How many times, how many years? If you feel comfortable sharing: happily so?

Married 11.5 years. Tomorrow will be the 14th anniversary of our first date.

First marriage for both of us. She was 33 and I was just short of my 40th birthday when we got married.

We are both very content and pleased with the marriage to this point.

 

[Dogmaphobe]

I was married for 30 years and have been divorced for 10.

I'm not lonely, though. Every night I sleep with two beautiful females. One of them is black and one of them is white.

 

[WorldWatcher]

I was married for 30 years and have been divorced for 10.

I'm not lonely, though. Every night I sleep with two beautiful females. One of them is black and one of them is white.

I’m not sure cats count.

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[OhPleaseJustQuit]

This is for anyone, but especially the men.

Many here are divorced, some more than once, or married and not happy. I don't know if this is just old guy culture--complaining about the wife--but it's striking, especially given that married men are generally happier than unmarried men, statistically.

So, are you married? How many times, how many years? If you feel comfortable sharing: happily so?

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I'm widowed, but if he were still alive, my marriage to my husband would be very good. He was my best friend, a very happy and funny person, and I had never met a person who didn't like him.

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[OhPleaseJustQuit]

I've been married once. I've never been divorced. My wife died last year and next week I'm getting married again.
We'll see if it's a happy marriage. I hope it's my last.
I know one thing....this time around is turning out to be more expensive. My first wedding ring set cost me $300. This new set cost me $10,000.00

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Good for you, Muddy!

Does this mean I can take you off my prayer list of "people in mourning"? I'm guessing you will mourn for her for a long time, having heard about what a lovely person she was!

Best of luck to you and your new love.

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[BothWings]

JoeB131 is

I'm happily married. It just took a while to get it right.

Same here. 18 years and counting.

 

[Stryder50]

I'm just going to point out the authors name is "Brad".

Should anyone named "Brad" really be writing for real men?

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One of my best friends, known for over 45 years, is named Brad ~ Bradley*

What name(s) should a writer for "real men" have ?

BTW, "Bradley" is the name for the U.S. Army's main issue Armored Personnel Carrier.

 

[Concerned American]

I don't get saying "I don't love you anymore". I'm not trying to humble-brag; I really don't understand it. You vowed to love. That's an obligation. So seriously, they thought their marriage was going to run on vibes and feelings all the time?

Hmmmm. Love, Honor and OBEY? LOL, My wife didn't like that last word and refused to say it.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

Hmmmm. Love, Honor and OBEY? LOL, My wife didn't like that last word and refused to say it.

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I didn't say it either, but since losing my husband I've converted to Catholicism, and am rethinking a lot of those roles.

I respect those women who have traditional Catholic values, because they are the ones who will rebuild our church.

And for every woman who will obey her Catholic husband is a man who will work his rear end off to support all those new little Catholics who are JAMMING the pews more and more.

My church is going to beat the evil cult.

Praise God, I have a new friend whose brother has fourteen children who all go to Mass and are on the path towards dedication to the one who has Her foot on the throat of the evil one!

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[south_jersey]

We've been married for 32 years, now and feel the same way today about each other when we were twenty-somethings and dating. We never had kids but have been good partners most of the time. Not everything was roses, but I think we had each other's backs in life. She's retired, I still work. I'd describe us as best friends with a spark of romance and a lot of sentiment.

 

[SweetSue92]

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I'm widowed, but if he were still alive, my marriage to my husband would be very good. He was my best friend, a very happy and funny person, and I had never met a person who didn't like him.

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Aw, I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope and pray memories of him will bring you joy and comfort along with the grief.

 

[SweetSue92]

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I didn't say it either, but since losing my husband I've converted to Catholicism, and am rethinking a lot of those roles.

I respect those women who have traditional Catholic values, because they are the ones who will rebuild our church.

And for every woman who will obey her Catholic husband is a man who will work his rear end off to support all those new little Catholics who are JAMMING the pews more and more.

My church is going to beat the evil cult.

Praise God, I have a new friend whose brother has fourteen children who all go to Mass and are on the path towards dedication to the one who has Her foot on the throat of the evil one!

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The word I would use is "submit" rather than obey. Submission to your husband is entirely Biblical and changed our marriage. It means many things, but NOT:

--That you don't get a say in your marriage. My husband married a person, a woman, not a robot

--That a Christian woman submits, or is "submissive" to ALL men

--That a Christian woman cannot hold a job where she is in charge of men in her job role

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

The word I would use is "submit" rather than obey. Submission to your husband is entirely Biblical and changed our marriage. It means many things, but NOT:

--That you don't get a say in your marriage. My husband married a person, a woman, not a robot

--That a Christian woman submits, or is "submissive" to ALL men

--That a Christian woman cannot hold a job where she is in charge of men in her job role

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Great points.

All the Catholic husbands I know are far too intelligent to expect obedience from their wives. Catholic wives/mothers are a force to be reckoned with.

As are the other Christian women I know.

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[MarathonMike]

As for me:

We have been married for 31 years, and I am very happy, and I have no reason to believe hubby is not. Being a Christian wife means that you put him over yourself...

32 years, one marriage relatively happy. Now that she's (theoretically) retired we need to find something we both like to do other than walks and exercise videos.

 

[SweetSue92]

We've been married for 32 years, now and feel the same way today about each other when we were twenty-somethings and dating. We never had kids but have been good partners most of the time. Not everything was roses, but I think we had each other's backs in life. She's retired, I still work. I'd describe us as best friends with a spark of romance and a lot of sentiment.

I could not love this more. So happy for you!

Seriously, "having each other's backs" is so important. And my hubby and I are also best friends. I've heard more than one person who has studied happy marriages say that being friends is key.

 

[SweetSue92]

32 years, one marriage relatively happy. Now that she's (theoretically) retired we need to find something we both like to do other than walks and exercise videos.

I love this! I have only been retired for a couple of months, but have found some unexpected new hobbies that I love! Best wishes to you both.