It took my dear friend and frequent dinner date, E.J., passed this evening. I bless his many years of being a voluntary fireman in Walker County, Texas, where he was born, pursued a career in trucking before graduating from high school, served his country when called, spent years of the last 2 decades of her life caring for her, married late to a dental specialist who had family that was grown up, so instead of becoming a father figure, he became their friend and inspiration as a faithful listener in the evenings to his First responder radio, which is how they communicated their volunteers to get down to the fire house. From his friends I've talked to, he was always one of the first to show up and knew everything there was to know about fire equipment of every type including the engines, the water supply, and their care and storage. His family is planning a funeral for next monday if they can get it scheduled, or sooner if necessary. There are likely a hundred including his wife's children, grandchildren, and several grandchildren. We just celebrated his 82nd birthday less than a month ago. It took 10 days for this tough guy from the time I found him after not hearing from him for over 30 hours, decided to cowgirl up, go over and see if he was okay. He wasn't at all okay. He couldn't tell me what was wrong, but things were scattered everywhere that someone who couldn't walk for several hours. Oh, and he didn't answer any phones, either. Everyone was so sure he was out punching cows, which he had in the week before fixed his haybaler, worked feeding his animals twice a day every day, and every stray cat in the county knows where he lives, because he feeds them what the raccoons don't take, and he was buying food for pets twice a week who roamed nearby, hoping to find where he put the bowls set out here and yonder. In the past 10 days when I've visited him and his family every day, his step kids (in their 60s now) they feed those wild cats and their kittens twice a day, just like he did.
Thanks for letting me get my sad little story out here. I'm doing okay. I knew he had small cell lung cancer, but unfortunately he didn't know what the outcome would be as he didn't give up cigarettes for 6 months. In the meantime, I only gave him my best version of what cigarettes are--and the last time I mentioned it here, it made everybody mad, so I won't mention my little pet name for hateful smokes. It's a near impossible habit to break, my own mother died with 2 kids still in middle school because she would not stop smoking. She did cut back from 3 packs a day to 1, but that didn't help. One of the poisons in cigarettes breaks down blood vessels and results in the sudden death called aneurism. Her balloon was at the nape of her neck and when it burst, she was gone in less than 3 days. EJ stopped smoking when he went on Chemo. I have no idea how he did it, but it gave him 5 months rather than 6 weeks to live. I wish he had quit the day I told him what cigarettes were. Don't go to my profile page, and you'll never have to hear it.
God's kindliest blessings on each of you.