I disagree. Everyone agrees that monopolies are undesirable, and government is the biggest monopoly of all. You don't solve the problem of monopolies by creating a bigger one.
You don't resolve any disputes without a monopoly.
You don't adequately provide a coordinated, mutual defense of your territory/property without a monopoly on military command.
Peaceful existence requires mutual assent to rules. Without mutual assent, there is no peaceful existence.
Government without a monopoly is war.
I understand your resistance to the inevitable. I really do. When I came to the conclusion that government will always exist, I was troubled for a long period of time. I quit thinking we could be rid of government force, and started focusing my attention on beating the shit out of the government we have and making it our *****, rather than the other way around.