So I met this guy...

[Amanda]

Oh, something I forgot about the texting... He works with technology and he has a super bad ass phone. I wasn't that freaked out about the texting but I thought it might make some of you see it differently. But then again, maybe not!

 

[dilloduck]

Ok, so that went pretty well...

We went to a decent place, not great, not a dive, but in all fairness there really aren't any super good places nearby and I only get an hour for lunch.

He didn't say anything that contradicted anything he said Tue nite. So I guess that's good. I told him I still wasn't sure if I was going dancing or not. I may go, I'm really not sure at this point.

I got one of his business cards so I'm going to go Google him and see what pops up.

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look how popular your love life is----get a reality show----Dates of Amanda's Life

 

[PoliticalChic]

Of course the age difference matters. What on earth would a 30 year old be doing hanging out in clubs and going after someone who's practically jail bait?

Run....

Why would it matter, if both parties are upfront about what they want out of the relationship? Why can't a 30 something hang out in a club? I'm a 30 something. Does that mean I shouldn't be entitled to go dancing in a club with a bunch of girlfriends?

 

[Shogun]

Agna isn't even here.

Did you think tissues and vasoline replenish themselves?

 

[Shogun]

Of course the age difference matters. What on earth would a 30 year old be doing hanging out in clubs and going after someone who's practically jail bait?

Run....

I sure do hate it when I have to agree with Princess. run or bring pepper spray and a large knife.

 

[Amanda]

Ok, so that went pretty well...

We went to a decent place, not great, not a dive, but in all fairness there really aren't any super good places nearby and I only get an hour for lunch.

He didn't say anything that contradicted anything he said Tue nite. So I guess that's good. I told him I still wasn't sure if I was going dancing or not. I may go, I'm really not sure at this point.

I got one of his business cards so I'm going to go Google him and see what pops up.

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look how popular your love life is----get a reality show----Dates of Amanda's Life

There's one coming out that some people here might enjoy....

The Cougar

 

[American Horse]

He said he's recently divorced.

All the other stuff aside, for the rest of your life don't mess with any divorced man whose not more than a year out of his marriage; period, but better still, no divorced men: period.

 

[Amanda]

He said he's recently divorced.

All the other stuff aside, for the rest of your life don't mess with any divorced man whose not more than a year out of his marriage; period, but better still, no divorced men: period.

Opinions are good, reasons are better. Explain.

 

[xsited1]

I can't believe all these posts about the age difference. I know several people who are in marriages where the age differences are between 5 and 25 years and they are perfectly happy. However, remember that the older person will probably die before you. Although this is obvious, I know a lady who is 50 who was married at age 21 to a guy who was 46 with 3 kids. They were married for 27 years before he passed away. She is an extremely level-headed and independent woman, but she misses her husband greatly.

 

[American Horse]

He said he's recently divorced.

All the other stuff aside, for the rest of your life don't mess with any divorced man whose not more than a year out of his marriage; period, but better still, no divorced men: period.

Opinions are good, reasons are better. Explain.

Men (and women) just out of a relationship like marriage are still invested in it in a number of ways, all of which will complicate any new relationship until all these problems are relegated to the past. At least a year (not really long enough) is required, just for emotions to settle down. There may be children, but there certainly is a failed relationship, and to every one it's usually the other party's fault. I could go on and on, but you should just think about it.

People your age should not date anyone that they do not see as a possible mate, because of how things move along on their own momentum. Why play with fire when there are so many good ones out there without deep flaws that will have to be dealt with?

 

[American Horse]

I should've given you more on the 1-year minimum time limit I mentioned above. Everything that happens in a relationship is memorialized in the last year of that relationship once the relationship ends. All the events are like anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, and more are going to come into play as an emotional finale at least during that first year. If a person can't let go as each anniversary passes because some trauma was experienced that embedded it too deeply, they will continue even after that year. It seems to me a person needs to say along the way as that first year passes, “I remember when,….and that’s gone now for good or ill…”

 

[Xenophon]

Ya pass out then have to go to work and look what happens... your thread gets jacked.


Ok, update.

I wasn't 100% decided either way last nite but you guys gaveme some things to think about. So, I thought about them.

I texted him back this morning and said I wasn't sure if I was going out tonite but that I ALWAYS eat lunch so if he wanted to come pick me up I'd go. So that's the plan right now.

I'll let you know how it goes.

In the meantime, no more threadjacking!

So you are going with the buddist thing?

 

[roomy]

Amanda...

made me laugh anyway.

 

[PoliticalChic]

I can't believe all these posts about the age difference. I know several people who are in marriages where the age differences are between 5 and 25 years and they are perfectly happy. However, remember that the older person will probably die before you. Although this is obvious, I know a lady who is 50 who was married at age 21 to a guy who was 46 with 3 kids. They were married for 27 years before he passed away. She is an extremely level-headed and independent woman, but she misses her husband greatly.

Xsited1, I agree with you for the most part, but who's to say when someone's life will be over? Statistically speaking, there's more of a chance that you will have longevity with a younger partner, but tragedy can strike and a young person can be taken away by a car accident, cancer. What about Natasha Richardson? She was only in her 40's when she died and I'm sure Liam Neesom was expecting a few more decades with her.

BTW, how old was the husband when he passed away?

 

[Toro]

Age, BFD

My wife is older than I am and we've been together for 15 years.

 

[xsited1]

I can't believe all these posts about the age difference. I know several people who are in marriages where the age differences are between 5 and 25 years and they are perfectly happy. However, remember that the older person will probably die before you. Although this is obvious, I know a lady who is 50 who was married at age 21 to a guy who was 46 with 3 kids. They were married for 27 years before he passed away. She is an extremely level-headed and independent woman, but she misses her husband greatly.

Xsited1, I agree with you for the most part, but who's to say when someone's life will be over? Statistically speaking, there's more of a chance that you will have longevity with a younger partner, but tragedy can strike and a young person can be taken away by a car accident, cancer. What about Natasha Richardson? She was only in her 40's when she died and I'm sure Liam Neesom was expecting a few more decades with her.

BTW, how old was the husband when he passed away?

He was in his early 70s. I work with the lady. She still wears her wedding ring.

 

[Amanda]

I should've given you more on the 1-year minimum time limit I mentioned above. Everything that happens in a relationship is memorialized in the last year of that relationship once the relationship ends. All the events are like anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, and more are going to come into play as an emotional finale at least during that first year. If a person can't let go as each anniversary passes because some trauma was experienced that embedded it too deeply, they will continue even after that year. It seems to me a person needs to say along the way as that first year passes, “I remember when,….and that’s gone now for good or ill…”

That makes sense, I'll keep it in mind. I don't know how long he's been divorced. I hope to get more info tonite.

 

[Amanda]

Amanda...

made me laugh anyway.

Um... ok.

 

[Amanda]

Ya pass out then have to go to work and look what happens... your thread gets jacked.


Ok, update.

I wasn't 100% decided either way last nite but you guys gaveme some things to think about. So, I thought about them.

I texted him back this morning and said I wasn't sure if I was going out tonite but that I ALWAYS eat lunch so if he wanted to come pick me up I'd go. So that's the plan right now.

I'll let you know how it goes.

In the meantime, no more threadjacking!

So you are going with the buddist thing?

Huh?

 

[Toro]

Amanda

I recall you once posting that you wouldn't date an older guy, "older" meaning north of 30. Did you change your mind?