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[Diana1180]

Still here still single.

Same here... lol

Had a date. Guy bought me flowers. complimented me all night. At the end, asked when he could see me again.

crickets.

Getting to be a pattern.

But... had a few awesome Girls Night Outs.

 

[High_Gravity]

Still here still single.

Same here... lol

Had a date. Guy bought me flowers. complimented me all night. At the end, asked when he could see me again.

crickets.

Getting to be a pattern.

But... had a few awesome Girls Night Outs.

I hooked up with a girl last Thursday, she came over, we had sex, she left, never heard from her again. Turns out she has a boyfriend and their pretty into each other, why she slept with me I have no idea. It honestly feels like a dream, like it didn't even happen. I can pull the occasional lay hat trick, but as far as finding something meaningful I am lost and have no clue how to do it. I have met women at wine tasting events and other meet ups and had good conversations, exchanged numbers, and than absolutely nothing happens, I can't call it.

 

[High_Gravity]

BTW I did the flowers thing once on a first date, never again. I think it intimidated the girl.

 

[Diana1180]

BTW I did the flowers thing once on a first date, never again. I think it intimidated the girl.

I love flowers on the first date lol. It was surprising to get them...and sweet.

Sad that flowers are "intimidating".

Oh hey..I will be in your neck of the woods next week for work lol.

 

[Statistikhengst]

BTW I did the flowers thing once on a first date, never again. I think it intimidated the girl.

I love flowers on the first date lol. It was surprising to get them...and sweet.

Sad that flowers are "intimidating".

Oh hey..I will be in your neck of the woods next week for work lol.

I love bringing a lady some nice flowers.

 

[High_Gravity]

BTW I did the flowers thing once on a first date, never again. I think it intimidated the girl.

I love flowers on the first date lol. It was surprising to get them...and sweet.

Sad that flowers are "intimidating".

Oh hey..I will be in your neck of the woods next week for work lol.

Women say they like flowers on the first date but it tends to freak them out, best to just be casual on the first date. Flowers is for when you are already seeing each other, will you be in Richmond?

 

[High_Gravity]

BTW I did the flowers thing once on a first date, never again. I think it intimidated the girl.

I love flowers on the first date lol. It was surprising to get them...and sweet.

Sad that flowers are "intimidating".

Oh hey..I will be in your neck of the woods next week for work lol.

I love bringing a lady some nice flowers.

I did too but never again, at least on the first date.

 

[Diana1180]

BTW I did the flowers thing once on a first date, never again. I think it intimidated the girl.

I love flowers on the first date lol. It was surprising to get them...and sweet.

Sad that flowers are "intimidating".

Oh hey..I will be in your neck of the woods next week for work lol.

Women say they like flowers on the first date but it tends to freak them out, best to just be casual on the first date. Flowers is for when you are already seeing each other, will you be in Richmond?

I think it depends. I was flattered. But I could also tell this guy was a bit of an old soul. He asked to pick me up, made reservations and brought flowers.

Basically unheard of in this day. (sadly)

I will be between Crystal City and downtown DC. And I just noticed your in Richmond...so maybe not quite your neck of the woods.

 

[High_Gravity]

I love flowers on the first date lol. It was surprising to get them...and sweet.

Sad that flowers are "intimidating".

Oh hey..I will be in your neck of the woods next week for work lol.

Women say they like flowers on the first date but it tends to freak them out, best to just be casual on the first date. Flowers is for when you are already seeing each other, will you be in Richmond?

I think it depends. I was flattered. But I could also tell this guy was a bit of an old soul. He asked to pick me up, made reservations and brought flowers.

Basically unheard of in this day. (sadly)

I will be between Crystal City and downtown DC. And I just noticed your in Richmond...so maybe not quite your neck of the woods.

DC is about an hour and a half, I was gonna ask if you wanted to get brunch or something lol, but anyways yeah all that stuff doesn't work anymore. If you roll out the red carpet for a woman on the first date she will freak out and friend zone you, if you act aloof and uninterested she will sleep with you lol.

 

[Diana1180]

Women say they like flowers on the first date but it tends to freak them out, best to just be casual on the first date. Flowers is for when you are already seeing each other, will you be in Richmond?

I think it depends. I was flattered. But I could also tell this guy was a bit of an old soul. He asked to pick me up, made reservations and brought flowers.

Basically unheard of in this day. (sadly)

I will be between Crystal City and downtown DC. And I just noticed your in Richmond...so maybe not quite your neck of the woods.

DC is about an hour and a half, I was gonna ask if you wanted to get brunch or something lol, but anyways yeah all that stuff doesn't work anymore. If you roll out the red carpet for a woman on the first date she will freak out and friend zone you, if you act aloof and uninterested she will sleep with you lol.

lol...brunch..is that at like 10am or 11am? Or is it after lunch?

Aloof and uninterested gets you friend zoned quicker with me. I will not chase anyone. If you act aloof and uninterested then I will assume you are not interested and not put in any effort.

 

[High_Gravity]

I think it depends. I was flattered. But I could also tell this guy was a bit of an old soul. He asked to pick me up, made reservations and brought flowers.

Basically unheard of in this day. (sadly)

I will be between Crystal City and downtown DC. And I just noticed your in Richmond...so maybe not quite your neck of the woods.

DC is about an hour and a half, I was gonna ask if you wanted to get brunch or something lol, but anyways yeah all that stuff doesn't work anymore. If you roll out the red carpet for a woman on the first date she will freak out and friend zone you, if you act aloof and uninterested she will sleep with you lol.

lol...brunch..is that at like 10am or 11am? Or is it after lunch?

Aloof and uninterested gets you friend zoned quicker with me. I will not chase anyone. If you act aloof and uninterested then I will assume you are not interested and not put in any effort.

I thought brunch was breakfast for lunch lol, I have heard people say that and what you are saying is logical and makes sense but in practice you would be surprised how women react. Women are not interested in the guys that are too eager and too easy, women are more attracted to challenging men.

 

[Diana1180]

ok, maybe I am doing it all wrong.

So if you are interested in a girl and you go on a date and have a great time and both express the desire for a second date. (No sex) Are you going to do that stupid 3 day rule and not call her because you are trying to be aloof?

 

[High_Gravity]

ok, maybe I am doing it all wrong.

So if you are interested in a girl and you go on a date and have a great time and both express the desire for a second date. (No sex) Are you going to do that stupid 3 day rule and not call her because you are trying to be aloof?

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

 

[Diana1180]

ok, maybe I am doing it all wrong.

So if you are interested in a girl and you go on a date and have a great time and both express the desire for a second date. (No sex) Are you going to do that stupid 3 day rule and not call her because you are trying to be aloof?

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

I think I was born in the wrong generation....

 

[Ava]

ok, maybe I am doing it all wrong.

So if you are interested in a girl and you go on a date and have a great time and both express the desire for a second date. (No sex) Are you going to do that stupid 3 day rule and not call her because you are trying to be aloof?

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

Interesting.

To this day, I would never call a guy in the beginning of a courtship nor would I accept a date request via text.

I am very hard to get. I don't play it. I am it. The more effort he puts into me, the more I like it. And that means, voice time, on a phone call. And a follow up call right after the first date. I like when a man is the pursuer and I know how to let him know if I am no longer interested, without offending him. I care about people's feelings if I care about them.

 

[High_Gravity]

ok, maybe I am doing it all wrong.

So if you are interested in a girl and you go on a date and have a great time and both express the desire for a second date. (No sex) Are you going to do that stupid 3 day rule and not call her because you are trying to be aloof?

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

Interesting.

To this day, I would never call a guy in the beginning of a courtship nor would I accept a date request via text.

I am very hard to get. I don't play it. I am it. The more effort he puts into me, the more I like it. And that means, voice time, on a phone call. And a follow up call right after the first date. I like when a man is the pursuer and I know how to let him know if I am no longer interested, without offending him. I care about people's feelings if I care about them.

See thats the total opposite of the women I have encountered, I am 32 and I mainly deal with women in their 20s and early 30s, this is how they are.

 

[High_Gravity]

ok, maybe I am doing it all wrong.

So if you are interested in a girl and you go on a date and have a great time and both express the desire for a second date. (No sex) Are you going to do that stupid 3 day rule and not call her because you are trying to be aloof?

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

I think I was born in the wrong generation....

I mean I don't like how things are, I'm just playing the hand I am dealt.

 

[Diana1180]

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

Interesting.

To this day, I would never call a guy in the beginning of a courtship nor would I accept a date request via text.

I am very hard to get. I don't play it. I am it. The more effort he puts into me, the more I like it. And that means, voice time, on a phone call. And a follow up call right after the first date. I like when a man is the pursuer and I know how to let him know if I am no longer interested, without offending him. I care about people's feelings if I care about them.

See thats the total opposite of the women I have encountered, I am 32 and I mainly deal with women in their 20s and early 30s, this is how they are.

And I am only 37. I dont expect to have attention 24/7 but showing that youre interested in me is a plus lol. If you only text me, go days without contact or I feel like I am the one always trying to make plans....I move on.

 

[earlycuyler]

Still here still single.

Same here... lol

Had a date. Guy bought me flowers. complimented me all night. At the end, asked when he could see me again.

crickets.

Getting to be a pattern.

But... had a few awesome Girls Night Outs.

I hooked up with a girl last Thursday, she came over, we had sex, she left, never heard from her again. Turns out she has a boyfriend and their pretty into each other, why she slept with me I have no idea. It honestly feels like a dream, like it didn't even happen. I can pull the occasional lay hat trick, but as far as finding something meaningful I am lost and have no clue how to do it. I have met women at wine tasting events and other meet ups and had good conversations, exchanged numbers, and than absolutely nothing happens, I can't call it.

You never can call it. Just have fun man. Shit rattles out how it does when it does. After my busy time at work, im going to Arizona with the girl I have been seeing and her kid. This weekend im in Lubbock with her and her family.

 

[Ava]

I wait like a day, and mostly people text me now smh, I haven't called a girl outright in years until we saw each other more than once.

Interesting.

To this day, I would never call a guy in the beginning of a courtship nor would I accept a date request via text.

I am very hard to get. I don't play it. I am it. The more effort he puts into me, the more I like it. And that means, voice time, on a phone call. And a follow up call right after the first date. I like when a man is the pursuer and I know how to let him know if I am no longer interested, without offending him. I care about people's feelings if I care about them.

See thats the total opposite of the women I have encountered, I am 32 and I mainly deal with women in their 20s and early 30s, this is how they are.

I've been told by boys/ men since I was 14, how different I am. I used to take that as awful because most young teens like to be like other teens, then at 26 it dawned on me it had, and was still, being used as a compliment. Whew!!! Some lessons take a while and are learned the hard way. Maybe more appreciated than ever because of that, though?