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[Ava]

I understand a little bit about what your going through, I got out a 5 year relationship myself about 18 months ago that ended terribly so I feel your pain.

I wonder if its really pain ? I dont know. I know it starts fun until you start putting your cloths back on. And even now, Im going to a beer fest with this woman on the 9th in sugarland. I made it quit clear that it would be best that I don't hang with the kids anymore. Not ready for it, don't want it, won't do it. Odd thing is, she said okay. Whats for dinner ?

If you are blunt and honest with women sometimes they respond to it, its quite a science.

That's true. Some of us respect men who are upfront with us, and he scores points for being honest. This way everybody knows sooner than later, what the truth is. The truth, combined with humor, are powerful aphrodisiacs.

 

[earlycuyler]

If you are blunt and honest with women sometimes they respond to it, its quite a science.

It is. And thers did not seem to be butt hurt over it either. By the way, dinner will be sushi in Kemah. My Boy is DD.

I like your style, too bad we don't live in the same city we could hang and talk trash to chicks lol.

Oh he'll yeah. Talk about a belligerent drunk. Seriously, look at my profile pic. Since the separation their has been an ex cop who worked Galveston county and knew me when I was on probation, a school teacher , a realtor, and a vet tech and a nurse. RN I think. what these women who have it together see in a train wreck who only wNts sex I have no clue. Im the dude I told my daughter to stay away from. Sheesh. One year and im outta here. May do florida for a bit.

 

[earlycuyler]

I wonder if its really pain ? I dont know. I know it starts fun until you start putting your cloths back on. And even now, Im going to a beer fest with this woman on the 9th in sugarland. I made it quit clear that it would be best that I don't hang with the kids anymore. Not ready for it, don't want it, won't do it. Odd thing is, she said okay. Whats for dinner ?

If you are blunt and honest with women sometimes they respond to it, its quite a science.

That's true. Some of us respect men who are upfront with us, and he scores points for being honest. This way everybody knows sooner than later, what the truth is. The truth, combined with humor, are powerful aphrodisiacs.

Hm. I think sometimes the truth gets mixed up in the humor. This is no bueno. My favorite line is, "do you believe in the here after ? Then you know what im here after". There it is.

 

[Disir]

I read the question regarding the women allowing their children to meet the guys that they are dating. My question is are you guys telling these chics straight out that you are only in it for the sex?

Disir, there is much, MUCH ground between getting laid, and not wanting to meet the kids because it is quite some time before you know if a relationship is going anywhere.

I know.

I also think that people have a tendency to spend a lot of prep time trying to disguise themselves on dates. A lot of the problems that people encounter down the road could have been resolved had people been straight up from the get go.

So, while it is very easy to criticize women that allow their dates to meet their children, I have to ask is there something that is not being said from the get go that would allow a woman to even go there.

One of the things that I learned real quick (and felt less guilty about) whilst internet dating is that most of us have escape plans. We spend an agonizing amount of time trying to be polite not to let the other person know that we have an escape plan upon the first meeting because we don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. But, we have them anyway.

I keep a list of red flags (everybody does or probably should). I went on a date with a guy that had recently ended a 9 year relationship with a woman that he stayed with because. They didn't have much in common and they would have tremendous fights once things boiled over. He didn't really care for her but admittedly stayed with her because she was available.

It's insane. Yet, people do this all the time. They aren't straight up and then problems develop or they are unhappy but wait until someone really will get hurt before they shoot straight.

 

[Disir]

I read the question regarding the women allowing their children to meet the guys that they are dating. My question is are you guys telling these chics straight out that you are only in it for the sex?

I cant speak for others only myself. Im out of an 18 year marriage where both parties committed atrocities, and that I am a mess. That I recognize that I have a shifty attitude, and plan on keeping it for awhile. That I will likely Bing drink, and basically not be modifying any of my behaviors in the foreseeable future for any member or the opposite sex. So yeah, sex and eating is about it. Sounds shitty, but like I said I won't change for anyone just now. Meeting the kiddies won't do much but make it a bit more quiet.

Sounds honest.

 

[earlycuyler]

I read the question regarding the women allowing their children to meet the guys that they are dating. My question is are you guys telling these chics straight out that you are only in it for the sex?

I cant speak for others only myself. Im out of an 18 year marriage where both parties committed atrocities, and that I am a mess. That I recognize that I have a shifty attitude, and plan on keeping it for awhile. That I will likely Bing drink, and basically not be modifying any of my behaviors in the foreseeable future for any member or the opposite sex. So yeah, sex and eating is about it. Sounds shitty, but like I said I won't change for anyone just now. Meeting the kiddies won't do much but make it a bit more quiet.

Sounds honest.

I try to be. Im not a healthy person. Im still messed up from all of it. Behaviour aside, the least anyone can do is be straight about it. Im only intrested in sex most of the time. Sometimes I want other things. But I dont want to meet kids ever. At least not for now.

 

[High_Gravity]

I wonder if its really pain ? I dont know. I know it starts fun until you start putting your cloths back on. And even now, Im going to a beer fest with this woman on the 9th in sugarland. I made it quit clear that it would be best that I don't hang with the kids anymore. Not ready for it, don't want it, won't do it. Odd thing is, she said okay. Whats for dinner ?

If you are blunt and honest with women sometimes they respond to it, its quite a science.

That's true. Some of us respect men who are upfront with us, and he scores points for being honest. This way everybody knows sooner than later, what the truth is. The truth, combined with humor, are powerful aphrodisiacs.

There you go.

 

[High_Gravity]

It is. And thers did not seem to be butt hurt over it either. By the way, dinner will be sushi in Kemah. My Boy is DD.

I like your style, too bad we don't live in the same city we could hang and talk trash to chicks lol.

Oh he'll yeah. Talk about a belligerent drunk. Seriously, look at my profile pic. Since the separation their has been an ex cop who worked Galveston county and knew me when I was on probation, a school teacher , a realtor, and a vet tech and a nurse. RN I think. what these women who have it together see in a train wreck who only wNts sex I have no clue. Im the dude I told my daughter to stay away from. Sheesh. One year and im outta here. May do florida for a bit.

Women love them some bad boys bro, you'll get the nod over a prince charming every time.

 

[Disir]

I cant speak for others only myself. Im out of an 18 year marriage where both parties committed atrocities, and that I am a mess. That I recognize that I have a shifty attitude, and plan on keeping it for awhile. That I will likely Bing drink, and basically not be modifying any of my behaviors in the foreseeable future for any member or the opposite sex. So yeah, sex and eating is about it. Sounds shitty, but like I said I won't change for anyone just now. Meeting the kiddies won't do much but make it a bit more quiet.

Sounds honest.

I try to be. Im not a healthy person. Im still messed up from all of it. Behaviour aside, the least anyone can do is be straight about it. Im only intrested in sex most of the time. Sometimes I want other things. But I dont want to meet kids ever. At least not for now.

I'd like to see the number of people that are healthy after a divorce. I have heard of amicable divorces. I have never seen one irl. I don't date men on the rebound and I am wary of meeting men with kids- if they have physical custody.

 

[WelfareQueen]

Women like the honest, friendly approach, without treating them like a piece of meat. Bad boys....I guess, but they're different kinds of bad boys.

I also scouted out potential dates for someone I would genuinely want to hang out with. I let the woman know that. I like you....you know...as an actual person. If sex happens...that's a bonus. But hopefully, I've made a friend.

Guys need to relax. Too much pressure focused solely on the *****. I've had sex with some bitches. Friendly fun sex is a lot better imho.

 

[Statistikhengst]

I read the question regarding the women allowing their children to meet the guys that they are dating. My question is are you guys telling these chics straight out that you are only in it for the sex?

Sometimes a date is just a date and nothing more. And sex is not even part of the equation. Just getting to know a woman and hear about her life, to sense how she "ticks", just to enjoy some time together. Just to laugh and enjoy a nice evening.

At this point, sex is better then jacking off. The rest is just the process that leads to not having to spank it. Oh, just so we are clear, its NOT supposed to burn when you pee right ?

No: burn = BAD, go see doc.

 

[pacer]

Sounds honest.

I try to be. Im not a healthy person. Im still messed up from all of it. Behaviour aside, the least anyone can do is be straight about it. Im only intrested in sex most of the time. Sometimes I want other things. But I dont want to meet kids ever. At least not for now.

I'd like to see the number of people that are healthy after a divorce. I have heard of amicable divorces. I have never seen one irl. I don't date men on the rebound and I am wary of meeting men with kids- if they have physical custody.

Some divorces are 'ugly' because neither party wants to compromise but there are plenty of divorces that are settled amicably. Some couples simply grow apart and agree to go their own way. It takes a certain level of maturity to let go of the anger and work together toward finding a mutual compromise.

 

[High_Gravity]

Women like the honest, friendly approach, without treating them like a piece of meat. Bad boys....I guess, but they're different kinds of bad boys.

I also scouted out potential dates for someone I would genuinely want to hang out with. I let the woman know that. I like you....you know...as an actual person. If sex happens...that's a bonus. But hopefully, I've made a friend.

Guys need to relax. Too much pressure focused solely on the *****. I've had sex with some bitches. Friendly fun sex is a lot better imho.

You just nailed it, thats 100% correct.

 

[pacer]

Women like the honest, friendly approach, without treating them like a piece of meat. Bad boys....I guess, but they're different kinds of bad boys.

I also scouted out potential dates for someone I would genuinely want to hang out with. I let the woman know that. I like you....you know...as an actual person. If sex happens...that's a bonus. But hopefully, I've made a friend.

Guys need to relax. Too much pressure focused solely on the *****. I've had sex with some bitches. Friendly fun sex is a lot better imho.

I don't think it is possible to have casual sex devoid of emotional attachment and still just be friends? Sex is the glue that bonds. Once ***** is involved, you create a significant bond. You put yourself in the role of boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

[WelfareQueen]

Women like the honest, friendly approach, without treating them like a piece of meat. Bad boys....I guess, but they're different kinds of bad boys.

I also scouted out potential dates for someone I would genuinely want to hang out with. I let the woman know that. I like you....you know...as an actual person. If sex happens...that's a bonus. But hopefully, I've made a friend.

Guys need to relax. Too much pressure focused solely on the *****. I've had sex with some bitches. Friendly fun sex is a lot better imho.

I don't think it is possible to have casual sex devoid of emotional attachment and still just be friends? Sex is the glue that bonds. Once ***** is involved, you create a significant bond. You put yourself in the role of boyfriend/girlfriend.

I agree...particularly for women. I had a booty call friend years ago. It was casual for me....she claimed it was casual for her....but she started getting feelings and didn't tell me. When things ended, it ended badly....and she blamed me.

Had she told she had feelings it would have changed the whole equation. She needed to be honest about what she was feeling and was not.

 

[Disir]

I try to be. Im not a healthy person. Im still messed up from all of it. Behaviour aside, the least anyone can do is be straight about it. Im only intrested in sex most of the time. Sometimes I want other things. But I dont want to meet kids ever. At least not for now.

I'd like to see the number of people that are healthy after a divorce. I have heard of amicable divorces. I have never seen one irl. I don't date men on the rebound and I am wary of meeting men with kids- if they have physical custody.

Some divorces are 'ugly' because neither party wants to compromise but there are plenty of divorces that are settled amicably. Some couples simply grow apart and agree to go their own way. It takes a certain level of maturity to let go of the anger and work together toward finding a mutual compromise.

Bah! That's just a myth perpetuated to make the rest of us feel like shit. Inspiration or some such nonsense.

Most of the time it is because the court doesn't care how you feel. They only care about division of property and children are a separate issue. So, it's real easy to feel burned all the way around.

 

[Luddly Neddite]

[MENTION=32620]earlycuyler[/MENTION]

This whole thread sounds sad and lonely. Not just earlycuyler. The whole tone of not liking the opposite sex.

 

[High_Gravity]

[MENTION=32620]earlycuyler[/MENTION]

This whole thread sounds sad and lonely. Not just earlycuyler. The whole tone of not liking the opposite sex.

Sometimes when your single you get lonely. Its part of the package.

 

[earlycuyler]

And many times its nice to just be alone.

 

[BDBoop]

[MENTION=32620]earlycuyler[/MENTION]

This whole thread sounds sad and lonely. Not just earlycuyler. The whole tone of not liking the opposite sex.

Sometimes when your single you get lonely. Its part of the package.

Frankly, I think it's just talk. I think if any of these guys hit it off with the one they'd been hoping for, they'd just be totally twitterpated.