Civility is not subjective. I can disagree with Lord Browntrout and CurriedGoats and be civil.
Those who can only communicate in hissing and pissing fits are normally on Ignore.
I agree. Civility is not at all subjective to me. But at least some of those who have nothing constructive to contribute other than snarky or sarcastic comments, insults, ad hominem, etc. no doubt consider themselves civil.
The convoluted double standard pervades all aspects of our society these days.
In order for me to be acceptable, most of those on the left expect me to be tolerant of inappropriate drag show entertainment of children, of lewd gay pride exhibits, of sexual content constituting grooming in school curriculum and library books, parents multilating their children and providing them with potentially dangerous drugs, of liberal women accusing conservative men of inappropriate conduct years, even decades, after the proposed offense, etc. etc. etc.
But they do not expect to be tolerant of my opinion that there are two genders, period, that biological males should not be in women's sports, locker rooms, public restrooms, that certain reading material and/or entertainment is inappropriate for young children, that the national holiday of Christmas should be celebrated in schools and other public venues, that Christians should not be required to participate in activities of protected groups just because they run a business, etc. etc. etc.
For the most part they do not attack the opinion or provide a rationale for why it is wrong. They attack me personally with all manner of accusations, ad hominem, name calling etc.
The cultural war that the left has declared on us is intended to make the abnormal and rarity normal and mainstream and to do away with all concept or recognition of what is normal and common. People are expected to accommodate the abnormal and rarity and any detriment, danger or discomfort to the vast majority should be ignored.
And any who do not agree with that should be silenced.