Parenting Transgender Youth

[Lilah]

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

 

[anotherlife]

By the way, on the suicide aspect of the post op tranny part, I could bet, that that statistics is exactly equal to the historically observed suicide rate wbetween castrated servants. It is a direct result of very fast hormonal level decrease in the blood.

 

[boedicca]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

 

[anotherlife]

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

This is a hypothetical, no real person here.

 

[Lilah]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

 

[Dhara]

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

This is a hypothetical, no real person here.

My son is a real person. He's a real human being and so am I.

 

[boedicca]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

 

[Dhara]

This is not your decision. You are free to think whatever you choose. This is my son's life and his choice, which I support. Wish him well. It won't kill you.

 

[Lilah]

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

I'm listening to this parent, and the parent is listening to their child and trying to understand how the teenager feels, and what makes him happy.
Transgenderism is an alien topic to most of us; therefore, we should listen and try to understand rather than taking the easy road and offer our judgments.
Admittedly, I cringe at the thought of Bruce Jenner changing into Caitlyn Jenner, but I don't know everything.

 

[Dhara]

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

I'm listening to this parent, and the parent is listening to their child and trying to understand how the teenager feels, and what makes him happy.
Transgenderism is an alien topic to most of us; therefore, we should listen and try to understand rather than taking the easy road and offer our judgments.
Admittedly, I cringe at the thought of Bruce Jenner changing into Caitlyn Jenner, but I don't know everything.

Brilliant. May we all be this enlightened.

 

[anotherlife]

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

This is a hypothetical, no real person here.

My son is a real person. He's a real human being and so am I.

Hehehe, maybe you can write like one and then we will believe it. But why does that matter anyways?

 

[Lilah]

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

I'm listening to this parent, and the parent is listening to their child and trying to understand how the teenager feels, and what makes him happy.
Transgenderism is an alien topic to most of us; therefore, we should listen and try to understand rather than taking the easy road and offer our judgments.
Admittedly, I cringe at the thought of Bruce Jenner changing into Caitlyn Jenner, but I don't know everything.

Brilliant. May we all be this enlightened.

Dhara, you are the enlightened one.
My grandmother was a psychiatrist, brilliant, and she taught me never to judge, but I do. Listening to you reminds me that we all need to learn tolerance and love.

 

[ChrisL]

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

I'm listening to this parent, and the parent is listening to their child and trying to understand how the teenager feels, and what makes him happy.
Transgenderism is an alien topic to most of us; therefore, we should listen and try to understand rather than taking the easy road and offer our judgments.
Admittedly, I cringe at the thought of Bruce Jenner changing into Caitlyn Jenner, but I don't know everything.

Brilliant. May we all be this enlightened.

Dhara, you are the enlightened one.
My grandmother was a psychiatrist, brilliant, and she taught me never to judge, but I do. Listening to you reminds me that we all need to learn tolerance and love.

So, would you give your 16-year-old child permission to take potentially dangerous hormones and then have a potentially dangerous operation?

 

[ChrisL]

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

And how, pray tell, am I "crucifying" anyone? I'm simply responding to a thread that was created with my thoughts and opinions on the matter. Lol. You need to calm down I think.

 

[ChrisL]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

I don't know this young person, nor am I speaking with him. Lol.

 

[Lilah]

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

I'm listening to this parent, and the parent is listening to their child and trying to understand how the teenager feels, and what makes him happy.
Transgenderism is an alien topic to most of us; therefore, we should listen and try to understand rather than taking the easy road and offer our judgments.
Admittedly, I cringe at the thought of Bruce Jenner changing into Caitlyn Jenner, but I don't know everything.

Brilliant. May we all be this enlightened.

Dhara, you are the enlightened one.
My grandmother was a psychiatrist, brilliant, and she taught me never to judge, but I do. Listening to you reminds me that we all need to learn tolerance and love.

So, would you give your 16-year-old child permission to take potentially dangerous hormones and then have a potentially dangerous operation?

I can't possibly answer your question.
When his son turns 18, should the son be able to make his own decisions?

 

[Lilah]

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

And how, pray tell, am I "crucifying" anyone? I'm simply responding to a thread that was created with my thoughts and opinions on the matter. Lol. You need to calm down I think.

I'm calm and I'm trying to listen to Dhara, but all you're doing is judging and making snarky remarks.

 

[anotherlife]

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

Stop crucifying this person. Who the hell do you think you are?

And how, pray tell, am I "crucifying" anyone? I'm simply responding to a thread that was created with my thoughts and opinions on the matter. Lol. You need to calm down I think.

But crucifying is your favorite thing though, isn't it? That's why we love you. . Whehehehe.

 

[ChrisL]

Logic challenged, much?

Loving unconditionally does not equate with enabling children in irreversible, life-changing decisions with extreme consequences.

I'm listening to this parent, and the parent is listening to their child and trying to understand how the teenager feels, and what makes him happy.
Transgenderism is an alien topic to most of us; therefore, we should listen and try to understand rather than taking the easy road and offer our judgments.
Admittedly, I cringe at the thought of Bruce Jenner changing into Caitlyn Jenner, but I don't know everything.

Brilliant. May we all be this enlightened.

Dhara, you are the enlightened one.
My grandmother was a psychiatrist, brilliant, and she taught me never to judge, but I do. Listening to you reminds me that we all need to learn tolerance and love.

So, would you give your 16-year-old child permission to take potentially dangerous hormones and then have a potentially dangerous operation?

I can't possibly answer your question.
When his son turns 18, should the son be able to make his own decisions?

The son is not 18. The son is 16. Would you give your permission to give your daughter or son possibly dangerous chemicals because he or she thought they were the opposite "gender?" It's a simple and straightforward question.

 

[Lilah]

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!

One may listen without enabling.

Just sayin'.

One may listen and also love unconditionally.
The young person going through this needs to be heard and understood.

I don't know this young person, nor am I speaking with him. Lol.

He is speaking through Dhara. Have you paid attention?