Parenting Transgender Youth

[Dhara]

Some say that to allow anyone under 18 to get hormone treatment is child abuse. I disagree. The younger a person starts to transition the more successful the transition physically and psychologically.

Discuss.

I am the parent of a transgender youth, due to turn 17 in July.

40% of post op Transgenders attempt suicide.

So, yes, you are supporting child abuse to send your child upon such a path.

I believe the suicide rates remain high postoperatively because surgery does not correct the problem. They need intensive therapy and not surgery, but as my links show, they are in fact suffering from a mental illness, and they become extremely agitated whenever someone suggests therapy as an alternative to surgery because they know the surgery is available to them. They feel that surgery and hormones are going to "cure" them, when I don't believe that is the case at all. Like giving an anorexic liposuction.

The Swedish study actually supports gender surgery. Their conclusion?

This study found substantially higher rates of overall mortality, death from cardiovascular disease and suicide, suicide attempts, and psychiatric hospitalisations in sex-reassigned transsexual individuals compared to a healthy control population. This highlights that post surgical transsexuals are a risk group that need long-term psychiatric and somatic follow-up. Even though surgery and hormonal therapy alleviates gender dysphoria, it is apparently not sufficient to remedy the high rates of morbidity and mortality found among transsexual persons. Improved care for the transsexual group after the sex reassignment should therefore be considered.

The Myth of Post-Op Regret And Suicidality

 

[boedicca]

Some say that to allow anyone under 18 to get hormone treatment is child abuse. I disagree. The younger a person starts to transition the more successful the transition physically and psychologically.

Discuss.

I am the parent of a transgender youth, due to turn 17 in July.

40% of post op Transgenders attempt suicide.

So, yes, you are supporting child abuse to send your child upon such a path.

I believe the suicide rates remain high postoperatively because surgery does not correct the problem. They need intensive therapy and not surgery, but as my links show, they are in fact suffering from a mental illness, and they become extremely agitated whenever someone suggests therapy as an alternative to surgery because they know the surgery is available to them. They feel that surgery and hormones are going to "cure" them, when I don't believe that is the case at all. Like giving an anorexic liposuction.

Oh, I agree. Transgenderism is a type of body dysmorphic disorder. Whacking off or extending one's genitals and taking hormones aren't going to fix an extreme self-image mental issue.

 

[anotherlife]

Some say that to allow anyone under 18 to get hormone treatment is child abuse. I disagree. The younger a person starts to transition the more successful the transition physically and psychologically.

Discuss.

I am the parent of a transgender youth, due to turn 17 in July.

40% of post op Transgenders attempt suicide.

So, yes, you are supporting child abuse to send your child upon such a path.

Thank you. This is more justification for me, that I suggested that she keeps her female body and continues as lesbian.

 

[ChrisL]

Damn, I told my wife we'd get blamed for my son's transgender affinity.

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

 

[boedicca]

Some say that to allow anyone under 18 to get hormone treatment is child abuse. I disagree. The younger a person starts to transition the more successful the transition physically and psychologically.

Discuss.

I am the parent of a transgender youth, due to turn 17 in July.

40% of post op Transgenders attempt suicide.

So, yes, you are supporting child abuse to send your child upon such a path.

Thank you. This is more justification for me, that I suggested that she keeps her female body and continues as lesbian.

Poor conservative christian Caitlyn Jenner is rumored to be considering a reversal of ZER transgender surgery because ZE thinks having relationships with women is a sin.

 

[Dhara]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

 

[ChrisL]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

 

[anotherlife]

Body Dysmorphic Disorder

I'm not going to post much opposite reading because I see you will only read what agrees with your prejudice.

You won't read other things, and then accuse ME of doing what you are doing. Lol. Funny.

Good, so it's not just me. Thread! Still funny. I can imagine though, that aggressive, belligerent, abusive, and over earing parenting can force children to become homosexual teens. Your take?

Perhaps that could be the case. I'm sure there are multiple factors that could result in such a syndrome. It also depends on the person, the type of abuse and length of time of abuse too, I'm sure.

Also, I've just remembered this. Many homosexuals report that head injury in accident turned them homosexual and caused them to break up with their earlier heterosexual partners. So, brain damage is likely at play here. Another statistics that the LGBT bully group will suppress forever, nationwide. Maybe Dhara could check this child's early medical records of injuries, before saying yes to more insurance cash going to sex surgery clinics. Hehe.

 

[Dhara]

Damn, I told my wife we'd get blamed for my son's transgender affinity.

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

 

[boedicca]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

Scuze moi, but it's quite clear that you have done very little research on such a serious matter. That is, by definition, a display of a very CAVALIER attitude towards a life changing decision.

 

[ChrisL]

Damn, I told my wife we'd get blamed for my son's transgender affinity.

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

 

[Dhara]

Why is he the way he is? I have no idea. Why was I born a daughter of a gay man, and a lesbian. I have no idea. Three generation queer.

 

[Dhara]

Damn, I told my wife we'd get blamed for my son's transgender affinity.

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

 

[ChrisL]

Damn, I told my wife we'd get blamed for my son's transgender affinity.

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

 

[boedicca]

Why is he the way he is? I have no idea. Why was I born a daughter of a gay man, and a lesbian. I have no idea. Three generation queer.

There is your answer. The poor boy likely thinks he needs to do this for parental approval.

 

[Dhara]

Damn, I told my wife we'd get blamed for my son's transgender affinity.

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

 

[ChrisL]

Why was he put up for adoption? Did you tell me that his biological mother was a drug addict?

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

 

[Dhara]

He was in foster care with my wife and me for nearly 3 years before we were able to adopt him. Yes, his mother is a drug addict He is the oldest of nine children. We adopted 4 of the 7 children available for adoption

Did he suffer from neglect/abuse?

Yes.

Do you think perhaps that might play a role in his "confusion" about his gender/sex?

That has been fully evaluated by 5 doctors, none of whom suggest telling him he's a girl, give it up.

I'm sorry, but there is no "cure" for some mental illnesses, but potentially dangerous and life-altering surgery and hormonal therapy (which is known to cause health problems) is not the answer when a person has a perfectly healthy and normally functioning body.

He will likely be in therapy the rest of his life. Why not wish him well instead hoping this fails?

 

[Dhara]

Why is he the way he is? I have no idea. Why was I born a daughter of a gay man, and a lesbian. I have no idea. Three generation queer.

There is your answer. The poor boy likely thinks he needs to do this for parental approval.

Hardly. I would have much preferred a cisgender daughter than to raise a trans gender son. He didn't do this for MY approval or anyone elses. He's doing this because it feels right to him and he's wanted to do this his whole life, long before he met us.

 

[Lilah]

I'm rather shocked and repulsed that the OP has such a cavalier and uninformed outlook on what she is supporting for her gender indeterminate offspring.

I'm not shocked by your negativity.

My son is adopted. He is formerly my foster child. He is grateful to be with us as his parents. His past life was very sad.

I'm not uninformed nor cavelier, AND you're probably going to get ugly about this so I will put you on ignore.

I would be very interested to find out about what went on in his past life.

Why can't you listen to the young person who feels as though he is a male. Listen to him!