The Gadfly
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- Feb 7, 2011
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Mud,
You do bring up an interesting point, in that there is still something of a double standard on that; a guy gets around a lot, that's expected, while if a woman does the same she's a slut. I think that perception is beginning to change, but slowly. Partly because of that double standard, women who have a lot of relationships tend to be far more discrete about it, so when one isn't, that stands out even more.
On the second part, one failed marriage or relationship is one thing; a continuing string of them quite another. A lot of women apparently still feel considerable social pressure to be married, or at least in a relationship with a man, and will tolerate a less than satisfactory relationship far longer than most of us guys would. Couple that with the fact that women's sexuality is just plain more complicated than ours, and more than a few perfectly normal women think they are sexually dysfunctional. Most of the time just a little more attention to their needs (especially on the emotional side) is all that's needed; but if I'm to believe the stories I've heard from women (and I have no reason to doubt them), there are quite a few guys who will not even try to do that much. I suppose I should be grateful, as I have found more than one jewel among the supposedly "frigid bitches" they eventually tired of, or ran off.
You do bring up an interesting point, in that there is still something of a double standard on that; a guy gets around a lot, that's expected, while if a woman does the same she's a slut. I think that perception is beginning to change, but slowly. Partly because of that double standard, women who have a lot of relationships tend to be far more discrete about it, so when one isn't, that stands out even more.
On the second part, one failed marriage or relationship is one thing; a continuing string of them quite another. A lot of women apparently still feel considerable social pressure to be married, or at least in a relationship with a man, and will tolerate a less than satisfactory relationship far longer than most of us guys would. Couple that with the fact that women's sexuality is just plain more complicated than ours, and more than a few perfectly normal women think they are sexually dysfunctional. Most of the time just a little more attention to their needs (especially on the emotional side) is all that's needed; but if I'm to believe the stories I've heard from women (and I have no reason to doubt them), there are quite a few guys who will not even try to do that much. I suppose I should be grateful, as I have found more than one jewel among the supposedly "frigid bitches" they eventually tired of, or ran off.