On Line Dating

[Sonny Clark]

And why do you think these people are taking advantage? Aren't the people who buy them things accountable for their own actions? Do you think you can be hypnotized by good looks or something? You know, more often than not, these people buy the other people things with the hopes of getting something that THEY want too! I don't see how one is any better than the other in such a situation, unless we are talking about actual real con games. However, a lot of men will buy women things to try to get something from the woman, and then when they don't end up getting what they wanted, they are bitter and angry about and will claim "she used me!!" which I find rather ironic.

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... that does happen, like I said, there are no absolutes...

I think that we can admit in most instances, the man is buying the woman items or whatever to get into her pants. He has his OWN motives. She has hers. I don't see one being any worse than the other. Now, if the guy is professing his love for her? Then it would be appropriate for her to tell him how she really feels and if she doesn't have feelings for him, to state that and not accept any gifts, etc.

Let's be honest, men are visual creatures and they are attracted to good looking women. That is just a fact of life.

Yes, most men are attracted to looks first. Yes, most women are attracted to MONEY first.

 

[Bonzi]

Let's be honest, men are visual creatures and they are attracted to good looking women. That is just a fact of life.

... and a lot of times that isn't even important... but it gives the good looking ones a "leg up" (so to speak) ... as men mature, however, attitude becomes equally important, especially over time. Men would prefer an average looking sexual woman over a very attractive prudish woman.... (I have found in my experience talking to men)

 

[Judicial review]

Did you just totally forget my post on insecurities?!?!?

Nope, I remember... why? Is that somehow tied to being honest with yourself or with others? Too insecure to be yourself ... so you try to be something/someone else? Make compromises... etc.

Let me make this simple for you... If women were secure why would they have sex and risk getting pregnant when they aren't married and don't have solid financial footing in their 20s?

 

[Sonny Clark]

In my opinion, 99% of people are lost.

Not sure about that (unless you mean spiritually) -

Most people are just not willing to be honest with themselves with others....

Well, I'm sure that's my opinion. Of course, you're entitled to your opinion also.

 

[Bonzi]

Yes, most men are attracted to looks first. Yes, most women are attracted to MONEY first.

This just floors me - money was NEVER a factor when I was dating. It was always chemistry, and after that, compatibility. That was it.

 

[Sonny Clark]

Well, most men I think are fully aware of when they are being used and don't mind. In a lot of these cases, these men would never be able to attain such women without the money. It doesn't necessarily mean that they are nice guys that are being used. A lot of these guys know the deal and, to be honest, I'm sure that many o them are not such very nice people themselves.

We're all different and have different concepts of dating, relationships, right, wrong etc.

Being wooed and having money spent on me never did anything for me personally (but there is NOTHING WRONG with this... most women enjoy it) - so it's hard for me to comment. In a dating experience, the person and whether they are attractive to me, interesting and fun to be with is pretty much all that matters (but that's just me... I don't judge others that feel differently) - we could sit on a park bench eating $1 McDonald's ice cream cones, and, would prefer that with a man that totally engaged me vs. a rich guy that would take me out in a Limo to the most expensive restaurant, who I thought was not interesting etc.

I agree 100%. However, when you are looking for a relationship, a man who has his financial situation at least stabilized is a good thing. Let's not forget either that I am an "older woman" at 37, so the things I'm looking for are going to be a little different than a person who is in her 20s. I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with a woman my age looking for a man with financial stability and even a little more. Of course, I would have to like the person too though! Maybe I expect too much?

A typical woman, plain and simple.

What's that supposed to mean? Do you think a woman of my age should date a man who, say, lives with his parents still? Sorry, that some of us have standards.

Lol.. Those are basic standards. Maybe he's living with parents and is pissed.

My parents are dead. I have my own home. I'm 67 years young, and I'm doing very well, thank you.

 

[ChrisL]

Well, most men I think are fully aware of when they are being used and don't mind. In a lot of these cases, these men would never be able to attain such women without the money. It doesn't necessarily mean that they are nice guys that are being used. A lot of these guys know the deal and, to be honest, I'm sure that many o them are not such very nice people themselves.

We're all different and have different concepts of dating, relationships, right, wrong etc.

Being wooed and having money spent on me never did anything for me personally (but there is NOTHING WRONG with this... most women enjoy it) - so it's hard for me to comment. In a dating experience, the person and whether they are attractive to me, interesting and fun to be with is pretty much all that matters (but that's just me... I don't judge others that feel differently) - we could sit on a park bench eating $1 McDonald's ice cream cones, and, would prefer that with a man that totally engaged me vs. a rich guy that would take me out in a Limo to the most expensive restaurant, who I thought was not interesting etc.

I agree 100%. However, when you are looking for a relationship, a man who has his financial situation at least stabilized is a good thing. Let's not forget either that I am an "older woman" at 37, so the things I'm looking for are going to be a little different than a person who is in her 20s. I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with a woman my age looking for a man with financial stability and even a little more. Of course, I would have to like the person too though! Maybe I expect too much?

A typical woman, plain and simple.

What's that supposed to mean? Do you think a woman of my age should date a man who, say, lives with his parents still? Sorry, that some of us have standards.

What it means is exactly what I said. Most women, yes, most, place financial security ( money ) above all else, a fact. I have heard many women say, "I married for love the first time, I'm marrying for money the next time." I have heard many women say, "I wouldn't marry a man unless he had money." I've heard it all over the years. Yes, some women do look for love, friendship, companion ship, compatibility, personality, etc., but, as a rule, women want the MONEY.

Well, I completely disagree. Such women are the minority, IMO. Most women want both. I certainly wouldn't be stupid enough to enter a relationship with a person that I really didn't like, no matter how much money he had. I also wouldn't be stupid enough to enter into a relationship with a person who doesn't have his shit together financially. Financial stability can also be indicative of other positive personal habits, such as being responsible, motivated, etc.

 

[Judicial review]

And why do you think these people are taking advantage? Aren't the people who buy them things accountable for their own actions? Do you think you can be hypnotized by good looks or something? You know, more often than not, these people buy the other people things with the hopes of getting something that THEY want too! I don't see how one is any better than the other in such a situation, unless we are talking about actual real con games. However, a lot of men will buy women things to try to get something from the woman, and then when they don't end up getting what they wanted, they are bitter and angry about and will claim "she used me!!" which I find rather ironic.

.
... that does happen, like I said, there are no absolutes...

I think that we can admit in most instances, the man is buying the woman items or whatever to get into her pants. He has his OWN motives. She has hers. I don't see one being any worse than the other. Now, if the guy is professing his love for her? Then it would be appropriate for her to tell him how she really feels and if she doesn't have feelings for him, to state that and not accept any gifts, etc.

Let's be honest, men are visual creatures and they are attracted to good looking women. That is just a fact of life.

Yes, most men are attracted to looks first. Yes, most women are attracted to MONEY first.

No.. Women are attracted to penis. Until they hit mid 20s men attracted to vagina till 30s. The ages is very important. Women mature faster than men.

 

[Bonzi]

Let me make this simple for you... If women were secure why would they have sex and risk getting pregnant when they aren't married and don't have solid financial footing in their 20s?

Undisciplined.... desire for sex at that time over-rode their "logic", too much to drink and doing dumb things... now, if they are doing it to please the guy, totally due to insecurity and lack of self confidence.

If they are truly interested in the guy, they won't and will act like a lady.

 

[ChrisL]

Yes, most men are attracted to looks first. Yes, most women are attracted to MONEY first.

This just floors me - money was NEVER a factor when I was dating. It was always chemistry, and after that, compatibility. That was it.

Yes, me too, when I was in my 20s and idealistic.

 

[Sonny Clark]

Yes, most men are attracted to looks first. Yes, most women are attracted to MONEY first.

This just floors me - money was NEVER a factor when I was dating. It was always chemistry, and after that, compatibility. That was it.

I didn't say "EVERY" woman.

 

[Judicial review]

We're all different and have different concepts of dating, relationships, right, wrong etc.

Being wooed and having money spent on me never did anything for me personally (but there is NOTHING WRONG with this... most women enjoy it) - so it's hard for me to comment. In a dating experience, the person and whether they are attractive to me, interesting and fun to be with is pretty much all that matters (but that's just me... I don't judge others that feel differently) - we could sit on a park bench eating $1 McDonald's ice cream cones, and, would prefer that with a man that totally engaged me vs. a rich guy that would take me out in a Limo to the most expensive restaurant, who I thought was not interesting etc.

I agree 100%. However, when you are looking for a relationship, a man who has his financial situation at least stabilized is a good thing. Let's not forget either that I am an "older woman" at 37, so the things I'm looking for are going to be a little different than a person who is in her 20s. I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with a woman my age looking for a man with financial stability and even a little more. Of course, I would have to like the person too though! Maybe I expect too much?

A typical woman, plain and simple.

What's that supposed to mean? Do you think a woman of my age should date a man who, say, lives with his parents still? Sorry, that some of us have standards.

What it means is exactly what I said. Most women, yes, most, place financial security ( money ) above all else, a fact. I have heard many women say, "I married for love the first time, I'm marrying for money the next time." I have heard many women say, "I wouldn't marry a man unless he had money." I've heard it all over the years. Yes, some women do look for love, friendship, companion ship, compatibility, personality, etc., but, as a rule, women want the MONEY.

Well, I completely disagree. Such women are the minority, IMO. Most women want both. I certainly wouldn't be stupid enough to enter a relationship with a person that I really didn't like, no matter how much money he had. I also wouldn't be stupid enough to enter into a relationship with a person who doesn't have his shit together financially. Financial stability can also be indicative of other positive personal habits, such as being responsible, motivated, etc.

Shit. You are the first women with common sense I've seen in 28 years. Our birthdays are august 3 and august 13.

 

[Bonzi]

In my opinion, 99% of people are lost.

Not sure about that (unless you mean spiritually) -

Most people are just not willing to be honest with themselves with others....

Well, I'm sure that's my opinion. Of course, you're entitled to your opinion also.

What do you mean exactly when you say 99% of people are lost then?

 

[Sonny Clark]

We're all different and have different concepts of dating, relationships, right, wrong etc.

Being wooed and having money spent on me never did anything for me personally (but there is NOTHING WRONG with this... most women enjoy it) - so it's hard for me to comment. In a dating experience, the person and whether they are attractive to me, interesting and fun to be with is pretty much all that matters (but that's just me... I don't judge others that feel differently) - we could sit on a park bench eating $1 McDonald's ice cream cones, and, would prefer that with a man that totally engaged me vs. a rich guy that would take me out in a Limo to the most expensive restaurant, who I thought was not interesting etc.

I agree 100%. However, when you are looking for a relationship, a man who has his financial situation at least stabilized is a good thing. Let's not forget either that I am an "older woman" at 37, so the things I'm looking for are going to be a little different than a person who is in her 20s. I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with a woman my age looking for a man with financial stability and even a little more. Of course, I would have to like the person too though! Maybe I expect too much?

A typical woman, plain and simple.

What's that supposed to mean? Do you think a woman of my age should date a man who, say, lives with his parents still? Sorry, that some of us have standards.

What it means is exactly what I said. Most women, yes, most, place financial security ( money ) above all else, a fact. I have heard many women say, "I married for love the first time, I'm marrying for money the next time." I have heard many women say, "I wouldn't marry a man unless he had money." I've heard it all over the years. Yes, some women do look for love, friendship, companion ship, compatibility, personality, etc., but, as a rule, women want the MONEY.

Well, I completely disagree. Such women are the minority, IMO. Most women want both. I certainly wouldn't be stupid enough to enter a relationship with a person that I really didn't like, no matter how much money he had. I also wouldn't be stupid enough to enter into a relationship with a person who doesn't have his shit together financially. Financial stability can also be indicative of other positive personal habits, such as being responsible, motivated, etc.

You're certainly entitled to your opinion, and I respect your right to express it.

 

[ChrisL]

I agree 100%. However, when you are looking for a relationship, a man who has his financial situation at least stabilized is a good thing. Let's not forget either that I am an "older woman" at 37, so the things I'm looking for are going to be a little different than a person who is in her 20s. I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with a woman my age looking for a man with financial stability and even a little more. Of course, I would have to like the person too though! Maybe I expect too much?

A typical woman, plain and simple.

What's that supposed to mean? Do you think a woman of my age should date a man who, say, lives with his parents still? Sorry, that some of us have standards.

What it means is exactly what I said. Most women, yes, most, place financial security ( money ) above all else, a fact. I have heard many women say, "I married for love the first time, I'm marrying for money the next time." I have heard many women say, "I wouldn't marry a man unless he had money." I've heard it all over the years. Yes, some women do look for love, friendship, companion ship, compatibility, personality, etc., but, as a rule, women want the MONEY.

Well, I completely disagree. Such women are the minority, IMO. Most women want both. I certainly wouldn't be stupid enough to enter a relationship with a person that I really didn't like, no matter how much money he had. I also wouldn't be stupid enough to enter into a relationship with a person who doesn't have his shit together financially. Financial stability can also be indicative of other positive personal habits, such as being responsible, motivated, etc.

Shit. You are the first women with common sense I've seen in 28 years. Our birthdays are august 3 and august 13.

No, mine is August 17.

 

[Judicial review]

Let me make this simple for you... If women were secure why would they have sex and risk getting pregnant when they aren't married and don't have solid financial footing in their 20s?

Undisciplined.... desire for sex at that time over-rode their "logic", too much to drink and doing dumb things... now, if they are doing it to please the guy, totally due to insecurity and lack of self confidence.

If they are truly interested in the guy, they won't and will act like a lady.

OK now here come me blowing your mind. You ready? Women want marriage so bad at a much younger age then men do and become too desperate. The circle is complete. Your welcome.

 

[Darkwind]

I married someone I met on line also. But it was on a gaming site. Been married for 12 years.

I often wonder if those sites that try to match up interests etc. really work... or if people get "fooled" a lot....

If you're married, why this thread?

My cousin used Match dot Com. He dated many girls before finding his life match. And believe me, she's awesome.

Mr. H, you ask why did she make this thread if she is married? Maybe she thinks she is a "goddess". Listen, on another thread "Bonzi" said that she was a follower of Jesus Christ, A Christian. What is missing in the OP about the old fashioned ways of meeting someone? What would be the first place a Christian would suggest meeting someone? In a church, in a bible study, a Christian singles group - yet none of that was mentioned. The use of the " " in using the word "fooling" was an obvious jesting of how easily you've all been fooled!

Don't you recognize her? Chalk this up to a not very well planned out "Bonzi Scheme" on USMB members! ha! ha! Don't waste another moment of your time trying to figure out why some people do what they do. It is what it is. "Deception".

Ye shall know them by their "fruits"....

I've never felt comfortable hitting on a woman at church

Yep. Hard to land a roundhouse with all those pews in the way!

 

[Sonny Clark]

In my opinion, 99% of people are lost.

Not sure about that (unless you mean spiritually) -

Most people are just not willing to be honest with themselves with others....

Well, I'm sure that's my opinion. Of course, you're entitled to your opinion also.

What do you mean exactly when you say 99% of people are lost then?

In one way or another, 99% of all people are lost. Lost to reality, lost to their social environment, lost when it comes to responsibility, lost when it comes to common sense, lost when it comes to the meaning of family, lost when it comes to relationships, lost when it comes to respect, consideration for others, sympathy, understanding, etc., etc., etc..

 

[Judicial review]

A typical woman, plain and simple.

What's that supposed to mean? Do you think a woman of my age should date a man who, say, lives with his parents still? Sorry, that some of us have standards.

What it means is exactly what I said. Most women, yes, most, place financial security ( money ) above all else, a fact. I have heard many women say, "I married for love the first time, I'm marrying for money the next time." I have heard many women say, "I wouldn't marry a man unless he had money." I've heard it all over the years. Yes, some women do look for love, friendship, companion ship, compatibility, personality, etc., but, as a rule, women want the MONEY.

Well, I completely disagree. Such women are the minority, IMO. Most women want both. I certainly wouldn't be stupid enough to enter a relationship with a person that I really didn't like, no matter how much money he had. I also wouldn't be stupid enough to enter into a relationship with a person who doesn't have his shit together financially. Financial stability can also be indicative of other positive personal habits, such as being responsible, motivated, etc.

Shit. You are the first women with common sense I've seen in 28 years. Our birthdays are august 3 and august 13.

No, mine is August 17.

Yup. I'm Jr I knew that. We are both leos full of common sense, ambition, and heart. We are also very emotional and have huge hearts.

 

[Darkwind]

I met all four of My wives online......I don't need a dating site....I need an online divorce site.....I'm not sure, but I think four at once is illegal in some municipalities....