I was reading an article about Claire Danes mentioning, "It takes a Village", when accepting an award from the Screen Actors Guild:
Boy, is that a true statement.
We can be the best mothers or fathers in the world, and do everything in our power to ensure our children turn out okay, but at the end of the day, there's something much, much bigger than just us.
You don't really get how much credence this statement holds until you have a child of your own. I didn't, at least. And neither did a lot of people I know. I have many friends who bought homes before having kids, and now all of a sudden want to up and leave because the school district is crap, or because the area doesn't feel safe enough. I mean, think back to all the things that influenced you growing up -- it goes way beyond your parents. And there's nothing that can be done to change that.
A million and one things determine the kind of person your child is going to turn out to be: The town or country they live in; the religion they practice, should they have one at all; the school they go to; the sports they play; the people they hang out with; the food they like. It's an endless list. And it's also, perhaps more simply, referred to as living.
We can only do so much when it comes to our babies. We can love them as much as we possibly can; keep them safe; and scrape every last penny to live in a house zoned for a good school district or whatever. But at the end of the day, there's a lot that's out of our hands. We're not the only people or things our kids will encounter on Earth. Nor should we be. That would be weird.
Do you worry how other people/places/things will influence your baby?
Claire Danes' 'It Takes a Village' Comment at SAG Awards Is So True to Moms It Hurts | The Stir
When you think about it, we really are all responsible for how all our kids turn out. We interact with other people's children all the time. Also, we make decisions that affect their futures, right??
Would we be more willing to make positive decisions about disable children if we had one of our own?? Maybe that is how we should think. And also remember that someday they will be in charge of these United States when we are a bunch of old goats!!!