Dear AllieBaba: What I find missing is any acknowledgement of the CONTEXT or REASON surrounding why people make this arguments back and forth.
I tried to post a reply about PROJECTION but can't find it now, nor can I find your message (I think? or was it someone else's msg?) about differences between mediation and debate?
The common dynamic when people CAN'T accept correction (even when the fallacy or error is pointed out) is that people are focused on changing another person more than they are focused on changing themselves. When both people do this, that is when these arguments tend to fly back and forth without end. They can both see the fault in the other, but the more this is pointed out, the more the resistance and barriers are reinforced.
It results in "mutual stuckness" like one of those woven "Chinese finger traps"
The more you reject and pull away from each other, the more you remain stuck yourself.
But if you push toward each other to meet in the middle, then you loosen up what binds you, and you are able to break free from the deadlock or impasse you are both in.
Whatever THAT dynamic is, is the root to be addressed!
By forgiving each other first, then all these other corrections can be made in the environment of shared respect and mutual correction "as equals" (who both have strengths and weaknesses) not as adversaries competing to make the other person wrong.
My paraphrase. Her actual idiocy was: "Abstinence only is a form of pregnancy prevention for religious people who are only allowed to have sex to produce babies.
Contraception is for everyone else with a healthy sex life.
The anti-choice movement not only is ant-abortion, but they anti-contraception. They are abstinence only religious fanatics."
http://www.usmessageboard.com/religion-and-ethics/159012-pro-life-or-anti-abortion-5.html
And that is a prime example of ad hominem as well. And a couple of other fallacies.
But don't ask me what ant abortion is. I don't know.
And why do people MAKE ad hominem attacks in the first place?
Usually when one person feels attacked or targeted, or has been in the past, and this is projected on another person seen as a "representative of a group"; and then the pattern repeats so both sides feel attacked and rejected equally.
And what is the purpose of ad hominem attacks?
To reinforce walls to justify not having to change one's position since the problem is clearly with the other side!
Just use words to throw all the blame on the other person's side of the fence.
If people cannot forgive and heal of negative experiences or associations, it is often projected or pushed into someone else's space, by emotional verbal or even physical abuse, to try to relieve this anger or pain by expressing it negatively.