I don't recall your saying outright that gays should not adopt or, for that matter that they should not marry. But you never said that they should marry or adopt either, At the same time, you do spend a hell of a lot of time blathering about how they are not the same as other couples and can't produce children one on one while avoiding the question of how they are different form hetero couple who can't have children without outside help. Now THAT is soft lying
And of course a child with same sex parents will have role models of the other gender, unless they ate hermits that is