Zone1 I Want to Fundamentally Change My Wife

[DonGlock26]

OK, so do you still love your "wife?" If not, it may be time for a "divorce."

The wife is the USA. The unloving husband is Barack Obama.
Thankfully, he's gone.

 

[NewsVine_Mariyam]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

Oh my gosh, you have a WIFE?!?

 

[Harry Dresden]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

should have tried that before you got married.....now you have what you have....

 

[DonGlock26]

should have tried that before you got married.....now you have what you have....

Post #25.

 

[Hafar1014]

I was a family therapist in practice for 8 years after 30 years in 4 hospitals. When a spouse comes in and says you have to change my wife or husband its always the one who complains who needs to change.

 

[Hafar1014]

Anyone with a drug addicted kid can tell you yes.

Addiction is most often a trauma response. What they need is trauma therapy first to resolve the addiction

 

[Hafar1014]

A

You can love someone but you can’t change them. - Citygator

person must want to change themselves

 

[Hafar1014]

When we look at observable behavior that we want o change we have to look at the actual process that causes the behavior which may not be apparent of even cognitively aware. Whats the actual goal or purpose of the behavior. Learn that and the behavior will with support and encouragement

 

[DonGlock26]

I was a family therapist in practice for 8 years after 30 years in 4 hospitals. When a spouse comes in and says you have to change my wife or husband its always the one who complains who needs to change.

I agree, but Obama (the husband of the OP) never changed and he never will.

 

[Correll]

My wife is hot and has the sex drive of a man.
I’m happily married and in no need of fundamental transformation.

That is certainly a good, nay, a great base.

MMmm, I am in the same boat, now that I think of it.

 

[citygator]

Addiction is most often a trauma response. What they need is trauma therapy first to resolve the addiction

I think you are correct it is a driver of it for sure. But there are many solid kids with cushy lives who just like being daring and get hooked and ruined. Some personalities can’t do casual drugs, some can. It Russian roulette to find out which one you are. Not worth it.

 

[citygator]

I agree, but Obama (the husband of the OP) never changed and he never will.

No one really cares about your OP troll. We knew it when you use fundamentally but there is a nice discussion going on that has nothing to do with your OP. Butt out.

 

[Care4all]

Why am I the only optimist? Voting yes?

 

[RoshawnMarkwees]

From Mary Poppins…
A spoonful of liquor
Makes my wife go down
My wife go down
My wife go down

 

[candycorn]

Thanks for everyone's input. I wanted to see if you could really love someone and want them to change who they really are with a blind study.

So you're married to a black man?

 

[DonGlock26]

So you're married to a black man?

No, but Barack is.

 

[Ava]

Care4all

Hi Care. I also posted, yes. Post #23.

I don't however, believe love can conquer all, as the question was posed.

I do believe, from experience, a partner can change their behaviors, IF they want to. They must sincerely want that.

 

[candycorn]

No, but Barack is.

Perhaps your problem is that your wife wont shave his beard.

 

[Concerned American]

Perhaps your problem is that your wife wont shave his beard.

You seem to have an intimate knowledge of the perversion. Hmmmm.

 

[EdwinAMartin]

I heard about this place where they can help you with your problems.
I think it's a town called Stepford CT. Ask for Ira.

My wife would eat them for lunch and give their bones to the dogs.