Zone1 I Want to Fundamentally Change My Wife

[candycorn]

dear OP,

why don't you tell her all about yer quandary & you would like her input.

sincerely,
playtime

ps ( post pics! )

Apparently the OP likes dudes....thats what I'm getting from this discussion.

 

[Captain Caveman]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

Core traits are relatively stable, so I doubt it she will. I wouldn't recommend anyone trying to change for someone else, you'll just distort yourself and morph back.

 

[Zincwarrior]

When she divorces your ass she will be fundamentally changed.

 

[DonGlock26]

Apparently the OP likes dudes....thats what I'm getting from this discussion.

 

[candycorn]

So you're in love with Obama.

Its pride month...I'm glad you're finally coming out.

 

[DonGlock26]

So you're in love with Obama.

Its pride month...I'm glad you're finally coming out.

I'm not a Democrat.

 

[candycorn]

I'm not a Democrat.

You said you were trying to change your wife's mind or something and started showing pictures of Obama.

I respect your decision to come out especially since being gay in MAGA world is pretty much a death sentence.

 

[Carl in Michigan]

Fair enough, but do you really love someone, if you want them to fundamentally change?

Jesus loves you but EXPECTS you to change.

 

[TemplarKormac]

Don't change them. Don't tolerate them. Love them and they'll love you back. Genuine love will do more to change someone than anything else.

But I'm sorry to say that your inquiry speaks more to the core of your marriage than anything else. Do what you must to shore it up.

 

[DonGlock26]

You said you were trying to change your wife's mind or something and started showing pictures of Obama.

I respect your decision to come out especially since being gay in MAGA world is pretty much a death sentence.

Read post 25 again.

 

[OldFlame]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

Didn't you answer your own question in the op?

 

[HikerGuy83]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

This is a pretty complex question.

Chances are (speaking probabilities here.....) you need to change some too.

BTW: We never change anyone. We can force their behavior, but only they can change themselves.

 

[DonGlock26]

Didn't you answer your own question in the op?

See post 25.

 

[MarathonMike]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

I assume she is still doing some things now you don't like. Have you talked with her about it?

 

[RoshawnMarkwees]

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?

Is she keeping your penis secured in her purse or the refrigerator?

 

[playtime]

So you're in love with Obama.

Its pride month...I'm glad you're finally coming out.

 

[playtime]

I'm not a Democrat.

 

[DonGlock26]

I assume she is still doing some things now you don't like. Have you talked with her about it?

I said, "honey, read post #25."

 

[candycorn]

I assume she is still doing some things now you don't like. Have you talked with her about it?

She insisted that he stop shaving his legs. He refused...so now they're having issues.

 

[DennisPTate]

Do you want your children to love you?

If so, then be really, really, really good to their mother!

Do you want your grandchildren to love you and respect you?

If so, then go the second mile and be really patient with their grandmother!

I love my wife with all my heart, but she has done some things in the past that I am not happy with.
I think she needs to fundamentally change. Can you love someone, if you need them to change
fundamentally?