God didn't make deformed/or retarded babies nor did God cause the Haitian earthquake or the great tsunami of 2004. Despite those who believe it so, God clearly isn't a personal God who reaches down to help some and harm others. God created the Universe and is letting it play out according to established rules.
So praying is bullshit because god doesn't give a crap about us?
Prayer, like meditation, has a calming effect. IMHO, it doesn't make sense for God to create a Universe with clearly defined limits and rules then, effectively, cheat the game by violating those rules simply for the asking.
We're all part of the Universe and, therefore, part of God. What happens in our short mortal lifetimes is irrelevant when compared to eternal existence.
One of the biggest mysteries is the answer to the question "Why are we here?" If that question is ever answered, then we can move beyond faith to certainty.