My sister is a lesbian and my daughters Godmother is a lesbian. They are two of the most caring, trustworthy, people I have ever known, and they will ALLWAYS be welcome in my home.
The fact is that all sorts of people can be "nice." That doesn't make their hang-ups better than that of my own. However, I would not allow them to sleep together in my home if they were staying over night. So people are always welcome; however as an example, smoking is not. My brother-in-law will go outside to smoke. When I send cards to friends who claim to be "homosexually married," I always send two separate cards. In that way, I am validating them as valued friends/individuals but not as a "couple."
It's not a "hangup". My sister has always been lesbian. When she was a little girl she was more male than most of the boys in her class. In sports she kicked all of their collective little butts and as she grew older she knew she was different.
She never felt comfortable around men. She is married to a wonderful lady and they have been together for over 18 years now, far longer than most of your "normal" guy and gal marriages.
The same go's for my daughters godmother. She too never was comfortable around men. She grew up in a devout Catholic family but nature is nature. Only a fool would believe that someone would
choose to engage in a behavior that gets you killed in most countries of the world.
There is no choice, they are born that way and no amount of religious propaganda, psychological counseling or terror can change that. Even the Pope is beginning to figure that one out.