You’re still conflating two very different things, and that’s the core problem.
Yes, I mentioned insults, but not as a question of etiquette or hurt feelings. I mentioned them as signals, coming from the dominant power in an alliance, and paired with concrete policy choices: tariffs, treaty skepticism, withdrawal threats, and open hostility toward multilateral frameworks.
That context matters.
I agree context matters.
Context such as economic nationalism on the part of the EU versus, our trade, or then failing to meet spending targets so that they carry their weight in the alliance. Over GENERATIONS, before today.
A US president insulting allies while simultaneously signaling unreliability carries vastly more strategic weight than European politicians or media criticizing Trump. (providing you can actually produce examples that are even remotely to the scale like for instance, I don't know... give us your territory or face tariffs), something you can't. Those are not symmetrical actors, and pretending they are is analytically lazy.
Trump trying to make peace in the Ukraine while the chorus of anti-trumpers in eruope are heckling.
More importantly, even if Europe were being hypocritical, that wouldn’t refute my argument. Pointing out hypocrisy does not change the consequences of American isolationist signaling. States don’t realign because someone was “mean.” They realign because incentives, risk calculations, and dependency structures change.
On one hand you are arguing taht our relationship NOT be "transactional" then you argue that national alliances ARE based on transactional factors, ie incentives and risk calculations.
If, since the end of the cold war, Europe had been DIPLOMATIC in their relations with us, and NOT insulted Trump or maga, or America, I, and tens of millions of other maga, would certainly have been feelings about Europe.
Your argument is giving European governments a pass on failing their DIPLOMACY skill check.
Or more, you are arguing against the very concept of DIPLOMACY.
Which brings us back to the actual topic:
when the US frames alliances as transactional, conditional, and disposable, other actors respond rationally by reducing exposure and building alternatives. That isn’t Europe “expecting America to be its *****.” That’s basic geopolitical risk management.
It is not rational for european leaders to be insulting to a power that they need.
If anything, DEFERRING to that power that they need, would be far more rational. Convince MAGA that an alliance with Europe is to OUR benefit.
Me? I think it is insane, for us to be committed to fight WWIII, over Estonia.
West Germany had the strategic weight that a soviet conquest of that, would have shifted the global balance of power. During the cold war, to me, it made sense to that we were prepared to fight over that.
ESTONIA? No. That's insane.
You keep trying to pull this discussion into a grievance frame about respect, humiliation, and who insults whom. I’m talking about outcomes. Trade blocs forming. Hedging behavior. Structural shifts that don’t reverse easily.
One of those outcomes has been that the American people have borne great costs, both in defense spending and in trade imbalances, that are not worth it, now that the soviet union is gone.
I wanted a rebalancing of costs and alliances since the end of the cold war. IN the context of them being insulting assholes, my patience is... I was going to say wearing thin, but really, already exhausted.
If you want to argue that those consequences won’t materialize, or that the US can absorb them without loss, argue that.
But if the response is just “Europe talks shit too,” then you’re not engaging with the claim, you’re changing the subject.
If we discussing our relationship with europe, I want it explained to me why they are jduged by different standards.
So far, all you have offered on that front is that we are "Dominate".
Having more power, means that you get less respect? Odd, that was not my takeaway from history. Or human nature.
I think that during the cold war, when we really were the grownup and europe was a herd of cats that needed controlling, that we had to bear that burden, for hte good of all.
Now, there is no reason for us to bear that burden. We need to redefine our alliances to be more in relation to the current situation.
What you're doing is the exact thing you said you don't do, namely try to derail OP's, using the exact tactic that I flagged as most commenly used by people who do it.
What does that tell you?
I am not trying to derail it. I am pointing out a basic... mistake in your thinking.
Eruope needs to be more diplomatic with US.