You know, over my 20 years in the Navy, I noticed something about the various commands I was at......................good leadership is key in having a healthy, functioning command. If the leadership at the top sucks, it will trickle down the chain of command and infect the whole crew.
Matter of fact, I saw how that worked on my first command. When I got there, the CO was an excellent leader, and the things he did made crew morale soar. One of the things he did was whenever we had carrier hits (resupply underway replenishment for a carrier), he would spend a couple of hours in coveralls, working alongside the crew. Granted, that doesn't sound like a big deal, but when the crew knew the CO was willing to work along with them, they were willing to work as hard as was required. His directives were clear and understandable, and everyone knew exactly where they fit in.
The CO that followed was a soup sandwich. He required everyone on the bridge to be in 4.0 inspection ready uniforms (especially during UNREP, as sometimes there would be representatives from the other command), even though he would sit in his captain's chair with his shirt off and pants rolled up, sunning himself. And, directives were never clear, he didn't enforce discipline in any logical form, and the command suffered.
The only way we are going to be able to get back to being civilized with each other is if our leaders would quit using inflammatory language and start talking to each other. Why? Because people usually follow the examples set by those who lead them. In order to get this nation united again, we have to get leaders that are interested in leading the whole country, and not just their base.