8 Reasons You're Not Orgasming

[Delta4Embassy]

8 Reasons You're Not Orgasming

"2. You're only having penis-in-vagina sex. Dr. Krychman says a lot of the time, guys think they're incredibly good at sex but they actually have no idea what they're doing. According to Justin Lehmiller, PhD, author of The Psychology of Human Sexuality, only about half of women can orgasm from penetration alone, so it's no wonder you're having problems with the jackhammer method. Try adding in clitoral stimulation via your own hand or a vibrator on your clitoris during sex.

[more like just 10%]

3. You're not getting enough (or *gasp* any) foreplay. A lot of women fake orgasms because a lot of men fake foreplay, according to Dr. Krychman. Definitely a mic drop quote, but seriously, if your guy isn't giving you enough (or any) foreplay, you're never actually getting turned on and it's pretty hard to have an orgasm when you're not even turned on. So tell him to slow the hell down already and give you the time to get there.

5. You have no idea what works for you. The vagina has a lot of parts to it and it's not like we learn a ton about how it all works when we're growing up, so Dr. McDonald-Mosley says many women don't even know what feels good to them. She suggests trying to masturbate while stimulating your clitoris and inside your vagina at the same time (try The Rabbit) or separately to figure out what you like, and then share that with your partner. "


other (less likely) 5 at link.

 

[Bonzi]

don't forget medication

 

[waltky]

An' reason #9 fer the ladies...

... Uncle Ferd says ya ain't callin' him.

 

[Bonzi]

... and like many medications, solve one problem, create another (but that's another topic....)

 

[Delta4Embassy]

don't forget medication

Was reason no 1 actually.

 

[Iceweasel]

I think the number one problem is that too many women let their minds race in too many directions and can't focus for shit. But of course it's the guy's fault.

 

[Moonglow]

... and like many medications, solve one problem, create another (but that's another topic....)

So hookers are taking meds during work and thus not having an orgasm?

 

[Bonzi]

... and like many medications, solve one problem, create another (but that's another topic....)

So hookers are taking meds during work and thus not having an orgasm?

.... could be, I'm not at liberty to say..... however, I don't think having an orgasm is really a job requirement for a hooker.....

 

[Bonzi]

I think the number one problem is that too many women let their minds race in too many directions and can't focus for shit. But of course it's the guy's fault.

what? .... that has never been my problem. But you are probably right about most women, they put more emphasis on their chores, the kids, the budget, never really letting loose and enjoying themselves (when married with kids) - that's never been an issue of mine - but I can understand where it would be in many many cases....

 

[Delta4Embassy]

Have always found that when a man makes it clear the woman's pleasure is his main focus, she'll pop just fine. Never been with a woman (as an adult anyway hehe) who didn't soak the bed.

Caress, rub, stimulate her body, suckle her breast, and cup her vulva, tell her how good she feels, how pretty she is, then scoot down to orally pleasure her kissing her and telling her how good she smells (lotta women are insecure about that hence all the feminine douche products,) then get to it sowly and let her know how much you enjoy what you're doing.

If a woman isn't getting off repeatedly my first thought is there's a guy lying on top of her thrusting in and out. Ya, hard to imagine why she isn't getting much pleasure.

 

[Bonzi]

oh there is another mental block, wondering if a guy is just saying that stuff to turn you on or if he's saying it because he MEANS it......

 

[Iceweasel]

I think the number one problem is that too many women let their minds race in too many directions and can't focus for shit. But of course it's the guy's fault.

what? .... that has never been my problem. But you are probably right about most women, they put more emphasis on their chores, the kids, the budget, never really letting loose and enjoying themselves (when married with kids) - that's never been an issue of mine - but I can understand where it would be in many many cases....

No, I meant that they create too many problems by wondering what he really meant about what so and so might have said 2 years ago kind of stuff.

 

[Iceweasel]

oh there is another mental block, wondering if a guy is just saying that stuff to turn you on or if he's saying it because he MEANS it......

Yeah, because for most guys the gal really has to say the right things.

 

[Bonzi]

saying and doing things "mechanically" - instead of by "nature" is a turn off (to me) - if I sense it's being done not out of pure passion and desire, I lose interest....

 

[Delta4Embassy]

saying and doing things "mechanically" - instead of by "nature" is a turn off (to me) - if I sense it's being done not out of pure passion and desire, I lose interest....

Like Leonard in Big Bang Theory consulting google on his laptop in bed? "Hang on Penny, I wanna do this right." Or something like that.

 

[Iceweasel]

saying and doing things "mechanically" - instead of by "nature" is a turn off (to me) - if I sense it's being done not out of pure passion and desire, I lose interest....

As long as you don't leave too soon....

 

[Bonzi]

saying and doing things "mechanically" - instead of by "nature" is a turn off (to me) - if I sense it's being done not out of pure passion and desire, I lose interest....

Like Leonard in Big Bang Theory consulting google on his laptop in bed? "Hang on Penny, I wanna do this right." Or something like that.

No - sometimes you just sense that someone is trying too hard - or maybe like working on a car to get it to run... instead of just letting unbridled passion flow....

I prefer someone to be clumsy with lust, than precise with intent.....

 

[Bleipriester]

Reason 1 - 8: Fat, ugly slut married with Mr. McDonalds.

"Sprinkle me or I gonna break your bones."

 

[Delta4Embassy]

saying and doing things "mechanically" - instead of by "nature" is a turn off (to me) - if I sense it's being done not out of pure passion and desire, I lose interest....

Like Leonard in Big Bang Theory consulting google on his laptop in bed? "Hang on Penny, I wanna do this right." Or something like that.

No - sometimes you just sense that someone is trying too hard - or maybe like working on a car to get it to run... instead of just letting unbridled passion flow....

I prefer someone to be clumsy with lust, than precise with intent.....

Thinking back, was your first time a good orgasmic time despite the 'clumsiness'? Am curious if adult sex preferences stem from first time experiences.

 

[Bonzi]

saying and doing things "mechanically" - instead of by "nature" is a turn off (to me) - if I sense it's being done not out of pure passion and desire, I lose interest....

Like Leonard in Big Bang Theory consulting google on his laptop in bed? "Hang on Penny, I wanna do this right." Or something like that.

No - sometimes you just sense that someone is trying too hard - or maybe like working on a car to get it to run... instead of just letting unbridled passion flow....

I prefer someone to be clumsy with lust, than precise with intent.....

Thinking back, was your first time a good orgasmic time despite the 'clumsiness'? Am curious if adult sex preferences stem from first time experiences.

It was totally unplanned and unexpected - it just happened during a make out session.... it wasn't clumsy but it was just a result of heated passion -

I think passion and desire are more important to me then climax anyway. That's just a physical response, the feeling of love and desire - uncontrolled - is special and rare......