Delta4Embassy
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Like Leonard in Big Bang Theory consulting google on his laptop in bed?"Hang on Penny, I wanna do this right." Or something like that.
No - sometimes you just sense that someone is trying too hard - or maybe like working on a car to get it to run... instead of just letting unbridled passion flow....
I prefer someone to be clumsy with lust, than precise with intent.....
Thinking back, was your first time a good orgasmic time despite the 'clumsiness'? Am curious if adult sex preferences stem from first time experiences.
It was totally unplanned and unexpected - it just happened during a make out session.... it wasn't clumsy but it was just a result of heated passion -
I think passion and desire are more important to me then climax anyway. That's just a physical response, the feeling of love and desire - uncontrolled - is special and rare......
My hypothesis is our first times shape our views later on. Bad first time tends to result in anti-sex views later in life. Good first times, sex-positive views.
My first time was unskilled, zero knowledge, but lots of fun. Didn't get caught (until later embracing intimately but not naked in bed) but not scolded so much as advised against by my Mom. She took to encouraging me to 'satisfy those urges by yourself than with' XXXXX.
Which I was doing too anyway. But that pro-position on masturbation I feel really shaped my adult attitude about sex and masturbation. Was allowed my porn stash (all photo editions of Playboy then) and eventually porn proper on VHS. Guess Mom figured better masturbating than getting somoene pregnant. Since the getting someone pregnant was a prominent theme in her 'advisories' it also shaped my approach to partner sex steering me right into anal sex. 'Can't get her pregnant this way.' 
