Zone1 What Do You Do When You Just Can't Stop Hating Somebody?

[Road Runner]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

 

[candycorn]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

Well, you have to first stop calling yourself a christian. You post very few positive things here.

 

[Unkotare]

Antibiotics and change the dressing twice a day.

 

[Orangecat]

What Do You Do When You Just Can't Stop Hating Somebody?​

Join the democrat party and project your hate on people who want to make America great again.

 

[Orangecat]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

Can you cut them out of your life?

 

[Meriweather]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

I was in your situation once. I told God what had happened and flat out said it was beyond my own strength to forgive what had happened. I asked God if he would please handle the forgiveness for me until I was able to forgive. I left it at that, and it was years, perhaps as much as a decade, before I could forgive. I could manage the part of praying for one's enemies and those who persecute, so I did do that. I never felt God thought any less of me for turning the forgiveness part over to him.

By the way, no need to feel compelled to trust that person ever again. One can forgive a past event while still recognizing and being aware of another's limitations.

 

[Road Runner]

Join the democrat party and project your hate on people who want to make America great again.

Uh no I would honestly rather have a root canal.

 

[Foxfyre]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

You go to your knees, confessing your feelings of hatred to God and asking God to take those feelings from you and give you the heart to pray for the person. You are not required to respect that person or condone what he/she did. But hating the person will do far more harm to you and yours than the focus of your hatred.

 

[Road Runner]

Can you cut them out of your life?

Not really easily. They're my fiancee's family members.

 

[JGalt]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

 

[Unkotare]

Not really easily. They're my fiancée's family members.

Take away their knives.

 

[Oddball]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

It's a safety issue.

The part that won't let go wants to remain safe.

Can you recount to yourself things that you've learned from the situation?

 

[Oddball]

Not really easily. They're my fiancee's family members.

There's the safety issue.

 

[JGalt]

Well, you have to first stop calling yourself a christian. You post very few positive things here.

Ok pious asshole.

 

[Orangecat]

Not really easily. They're my fiancee's family members.

Be careful. Family is forever.

 

[Road Runner]

Can you recount to yourself things that you've learned from the situation?

Not really anything good.

Be careful. Family is forever.

I know that and I wouldn't want to get between them except for the fact that he's angry and upset with them too.

 

[Unkotare]

Ok pious asshole.

That’s what my doctor wrote on the results of my last colonoscopy.

 

[Arlette]

Not really easily. They're my fiancee's family members.

Then you have to fake it

 

[MarcATL]

Scripture says "seventy times seven."

You know what to do.

 

[Muhammed]

Obviously as a Christian I don't want to hate anybody but I do right now to a very particular person who stabbed me in the back. I just can't stop hating them and being angry with them and I just can't forgive them because I don't know how since this person REALLY stabbed me in the back hard. What do I do to stop? A part of me still doesn't want to stop and or listen though because I feel that they deserve it and at least God can't fault me for honesty. I wish I didn't feel like that, but I do. I'm in a complete and utter RAGE right now.

Get revenge.