A friend, who might have been more, killed herself a few months ago.
Recently, my daughter's friend killed himself.
In both situations, I had no words of comfort for those grieving the loss.
To the sister of the woman, I said, "I don't even know what to say."
To my daughter, I said, "I'm sorry."
I'm Catholic. My Church teaches that suicide is a mortal sin. Since a suicide does not have the opportunity to repent, a suicide goes to hell.
Some have told me that this could not possibly be true, God is merciful.
My mother killed herself when I was eighteen. I am plagued with visions of her in hell.
What do you think?
I'm not looking for answers from people who don't believe in God and think the notion of hell is silly.
I'm looking for answers from Christians.
I think you need to consider other perspectives.
I'm not Catholic but my mother-in-law was a strict Catholic, and because of her strong faith, I allowed my son to be baptized Catholic. And though I'm Protestant, I've been to more Catholic masses than Protestant churches.
Suicide is an issue the Catholic Church will reconsider. I understand why the Church believes suicide is a sin. The Church has probably saved more lives over the millennia because of this belief. However, the Church has changed its mind on many things. And it will eventually change its mind on suicide.
Suicide is usually an outcome of mental health. People who are suffering opt for suicide because their pain is greater than their desire to live. I find that extremely sad, but I'm extremely fortunate not to be in such a situation. However, I do believe that the innate desire to live is so strong that one must be in a state of extreme suffering to override the desire to live. I'm sure God doesn't punish people because they are mentally unwell anymore than He punishes people for being physically unwell. Mental health has been a taboo until recently. But mental health is as important as physical health. And nobody anymore judges people on their physical health. We are going that way towards mental health too.
I don't know your situation. But you shouldn't be tormented by your visions of your mother in the afterlife. I'm sure she loved you. And I don't believe she's in Hell. I believe she's waiting for you in Heaven when it is your time.