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    actsnoblemartin I love Andrea & April

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    I have a best friend whom i love to death whom is christian and believes homosexuality is wrong, and I have an online friend who is gay.

    I dont wanna let her down, I dont wanna let him down.

    what do i do?

    help!?
     
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    Talk about something else with them.
     
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    Set them up on a blind date
     
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    Assuming you never have a "real life" get-together with both of them, there shouldn't really be a problem.

    You can be friends with both of them, respecting each of their beliefs but their beliefs don't have to be yours.
     
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    Tell the christian not to have sex with the gay friend and the gay friend not to go to church with the christian friend.

    Problem solved.
     
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    Life sucks.
    Be honest with yourself and with them, if one or both have a problem with it then you're not letting them down, they're letting you down.
     
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    I don't know that I fully understand the sittuation but if your [non internet] friend is a Christian and you are a Christian and you both have the same values then you don't have to worry about letting eachother down.

    As for the other one, it depends on what you mean by "not letting them down." If by "not letting them down" you mean "letting them express their beliefs without you expressing yours" then they are the one letting you down by forcing you to abandon your values. The fact that you bring the question up attests to the fact that they are letting both you and your best friend down and should not be allowed to do so.
     
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    actsnoblemartin I love Andrea & April

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    I spent two weeks with her, love her to death.

    never met him but love him like a little brother

     
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    Change your identity
     
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    Date them seperately?
     

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