I'm a guy and I think couples should wait for sex

[sealybobo]

When I was younger I would not have taken this advice at all but as I got older I realize that if you want a serious relationship that could lead to marriage you just have to pause on having sex in the relationship. It just seems to work out that way. If your girl understands that and doesn't interpret that as rejection then it just seems like the M word is brought up more. I'm telling you that if you want a longer relationship with your girl or guy you may have to just pause on sex.

I think what you are asking is unrealistic. You are correct but I don't know if we can close Pandora's box.

It is all on the residents. And even if I raise my kid to wait if no one else does my kid will fail.

Anyways I think we should especially teach to women if you want to keep a man don't get pregnant before marriage.

How many single moms say "he wasn't the man I thought he was". That's funny because everyone around you could have told you he was a dog.

How do we get our girls to stop falling for guys bullshit?

 

[RWS]

Shotguns

 

[RWS]

I kid, because i don't have a gun. But i have 2 teenage daughters, and am a single dad. And they don't go anywhere or be with anyone, without my prior approval and inspection. And then, if approved, the boys are sufficiently terrified of me, that I won't need to do anything further. So far so so good... I know it won't last forever though...

 

[sealybobo]

When I was younger I would not have taken this advice at all but as I got older I realize that if you want a serious relationship that could lead to marriage you just have to pause on having sex in the relationship. It just seems to work out that way. If your girl understands that and doesn't interpret that as rejection then it just seems like the M word is brought up more. I'm telling you that if you want a longer relationship with your girl or guy you may have to just pause on sex.

I agree. I married my high-school sweet heart because I got her pregnant. Like 3 times,lol. Sadly it did not last. We were okay with it, we talk. But really, it should be put off so y'all learn y'all's ins and outs. There is an added benefit also and that is, when the sex happens it will be awesome. My Best half and I waited about 4 months.

That's like saying you are OK with getting wrongfully fired. Sure,, years or months later maybe you can look back and say youre ok with it but not when it's happening.

 

[sealybobo]

I kid, because i don't have a gun. But i have 2 teenage daughters, and am a single dad. And they don't go anywhere or be with anyone, without my prior approval and inspection. And then, if approved, the boys are sufficiently terrified of me, that I won't need to do anything further. So far so so good... I know it won't last forever though...

If only your ex had a father as good as you. If only you were as good a man as you are looking for your daughter.

Do you or your ex come from broken homes? We need to break the cycle so your kids don't find themselves single parents 14 years from now.

More important than what you say is what you do. Lead by example.

Then again sometimes kids look at us and say "I don't want to live like that".

Keep in mind I don't know you personally. I'm just talking in general here

 

[RWS]

No, we're the first to have a broken home in either of our families.

Whatever you're trying to say, it's ok. But I don't understand. Just try to apply it to the topic, ok?

While I appreciate parenting lessons, that's not what this is about, andI will be willing to talk about it elsewhere.

 

[sealybobo]

No, we're the first to have a broken home in either of our families.

Whatever you're trying to say, it's ok. But I don't understand. Just try to apply it to the topic, ok?

While I appreciate parenting lessons, that's not what this is about, andI will be willing to talk about it elsewhere.

Well we should certainly teach our kids to wait. Hopefully even if they don't take our advice it's with a guy she's pretty sure is going to be the one. As in you are engaged. I don't know what my in laws did but both their Greek daughters waited. Really old fashion Greek family.

 

[RWS]

Greek Orthodox?!? Wow, that's tough stuff, I know personally from friends!

We need to be able to talk about uncomfortable stuff. And having 2 teenagers that are not my species... it was really hard! I mean, I had fun with it, tried to make it funny as best I could, but it was tough! Maybe they didn't appreciate the humor, but that was my shield. But they understand my seriousness. We are all on the same page, and that's what matters. Kids need to know the consequences of sex.

 

[sealybobo]

Greek Orthodox?!? Wow, that's tough stuff, I know personally from friends!

We need to be able to talk about uncomfortable stuff. And having 2 teenagers that are not my species... it was really hard! I mean, I had fun with it, tried to make it funny as best I could, but it was tough! Maybe they didn't appreciate the humor, but that was my shield. But they understand my seriousness. We are all on the same page, and that's what matters. Kids need to know the consequences of sex.

It was so uncomfortable when my mom told me and my brother about sex. I remember it like it was yesterday. We were like "that's gross".

Why didn't our dad tell us? He's such a pussy. That's why I think it's important to have two parents. Neither of them could have done it RIGHT alone

 

[RWS]

It's really hard to talk about that stuff with your kids. I was a pussy too, until it came down to it. Especially having girls. Given a home where mom and dad are there, yes the mom should talk about that stuff with the girls, and the dad with the boys. But I grew up in a home with both mom and dad, and nobody ever told me shit about anything! I figured it out on my own! Actually, my first lesson in female anatomy came from my friend James, who watched a sex-ed class in like 5th grade. He said the woman's private part is called a "label". And for the longest time I called it a label....

 

[sealybobo]

It's really hard to talk about that stuff with your kids. I was a pussy too, until it came down to it. Especially having girls. Given a home where mom and dad are there, yes the mom should talk about that stuff with the girls, and the dad with the boys. But I grew up in a home with both mom and dad, and nobody ever told me shit about anything! I figured it out on my own! Actually, my first lesson in female anatomy came from my friend James, who watched a sex-ed class in like 5th grade. He said the woman's private part is called a "label". And for the longest time I called it a label....

When my mom told us you put your penis in the girls vagina. Sounded sick but she said something like " trust me you'll like it." The grossness lasted a day or two.

I can just imagine my dad telling my mom he couldn't do it. She was cool, for a crazy Greek controlling mother

 

[Crixus]

If you didn't get her pregnant at 16 or 17, you would have when you got married.

The question is being a good dad or mom.

Doesn't matter what age you were, were you a good dad or mom?

And yes, it's harder to be a good mom or dad when you're so young, but that logic is not gonna stop them from having sex.

A freaking snow plow and chain saws can't stop them from having sex! So it's about being a mom or dad... And having responsibility as a mom or dad to teach your kids proper techniques to avoid pregnancy at such a vulnerable age.

And that means talking about stuff that's uncomfortable. I'm good at that! When it comes to shit like that, i don't hold back.

We were good, and we were open just so they would not do the same thing! Not an issue for our daughter as she is gay, the boys wrap their tool's to. That even know where to get free rubbers, and ya, the daughter chose to get HPV vaccination.

In hind sight, the relationship should have been strictly sex and nothimg more.

 

[SuperDemocrat]

When I was younger I would not have taken this advice at all but as I got older I realize that if you want a serious relationship that could lead to marriage you just have to pause on having sex in the relationship. It just seems to work out that way. If your girl understands that and doesn't interpret that as rejection then it just seems like the M word is brought up more. I'm telling you that if you want a longer relationship with your girl or guy you may have to just pause on sex.

I think what you are asking is unrealistic. You are correct but I don't know if we can close Pandora's box.

It is all on the residents. And even if I raise my kid to wait if no one else does my kid will fail.

Anyways I think we should especially teach to women if you want to keep a man don't get pregnant before marriage.

How many single moms say "he wasn't the man I thought he was". That's funny because everyone around you could have told you he was a dog.

How do we get our girls to stop falling for guys bullshit?

"How many single moms say "he wasn't the man I thought he was". That's funny because everyone around you could have told you he was a dog."

Interesting...

 

[rdean]

Wait till tonight.

 

[Muhammed]

My wife and I had sex the day we met.

 

[SuperDemocrat]

Greek Orthodox?!? Wow, that's tough stuff, I know personally from friends!

We need to be able to talk about uncomfortable stuff. And having 2 teenagers that are not my species... it was really hard! I mean, I had fun with it, tried to make it funny as best I could, but it was tough! Maybe they didn't appreciate the humor, but that was my shield. But they understand my seriousness. We are all on the same page, and that's what matters. Kids need to know the consequences of sex.

It was so uncomfortable when my mom told me and my brother about sex. I remember it like it was yesterday. We were like "that's gross".

Why didn't our dad tell us? He's such a pussy. That's why I think it's important to have two parents. Neither of them could have done it RIGHT alone

Did your dad play some porn for you? Visual aides do help.

 

[RWS]

Crixus! I am Spartacus (seriously)... Great to see you!

So here's the thing, from what I gather. Sex is going to happen when you're a teen nowadays, whether it's oral, anal, or regular style. It's going to happen nowadays, because we are more forgiving of that than we were in the past. So we have to understand that's the way it is. Not some religious BS that we think will stop them from expressing their hormones.

So for girls, they need to be provided contraceptives, and for boys... they need to be flailed with a whip, until they know to use condoms every time. Because they won't otherwise.

 

[sealybobo]

Greek Orthodox?!? Wow, that's tough stuff, I know personally from friends!

We need to be able to talk about uncomfortable stuff. And having 2 teenagers that are not my species... it was really hard! I mean, I had fun with it, tried to make it funny as best I could, but it was tough! Maybe they didn't appreciate the humor, but that was my shield. But they understand my seriousness. We are all on the same page, and that's what matters. Kids need to know the consequences of sex.

It was so uncomfortable when my mom told me and my brother about sex. I remember it like it was yesterday. We were like "that's gross".

Why didn't our dad tell us? He's such a pussy. That's why I think it's important to have two parents. Neither of them could have done it RIGHT alone

Did your dad play some porn for you? Visual aides do help.

No but I brought this up to my brother father and mother and my brother remembers that day too. And my dad confirms he wouldn't have been comfortable having that talk with us. They are/were a match made in heaven. Both great but not by themselves. It truly took 2 people to raise me right.

 

[sealybobo]

Crixus! I am Spartacus (seriously)... Great to see you!

So here's the thing, from what I gather. Sex is going to happen when you're a teen nowadays, whether it's oral, anal, or regular style. It's going to happen nowadays, because we are more forgiving of that than we were in the past. So we have to understand that's the way it is. Not some religious BS that we think will stop them from expressing their hormones.

So for girls, they need to be provided contraceptives, and for boys... they need to be flailed with a whip, until they know to use condoms every time. Because they won't otherwise.

If the girls insist they'll have to.

I know the numbers small but some girls do wait to be married before they have sex. If parents want to try they should seek advice from them. What do they do? They aren't as forgiving. Their kids don't get pregnant because they can't tell their parents they are pregnant. And they don't spend the night with boyfriends. My brother and brother in law married two beautiful Greek virgins. Greek parents aren't as liberal as other American parents. But will our generation raise our kids like that or will it be OK with us if little Katina fucks every boyfriend?

 

[SuperDemocrat]

I would also like to say that guys who talk about getting laid all the time or seem to feel the urge to say something perverse are probably covering up for the fact they don't get sex that often or not at all. I use to know a kid in high school. He would come in and brag about all the sexual exploits he supposedly has had but I knew he was bullshitting the whole way. The sad fact is is that other guys believed him. The stories he told came right out a movie sometimes.

I've notice that guys that have never got laid before are usually the ones saying the crudest shit about sex and they are doing it compensate for their insecurity.