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This is ridiculous. Perhaps you should just go ahead and call them nazis while you're at it? How irrational. Do not dare substitute ideas about parenting in regards to psychiatric PATHOLOGY. If you actually decided to educate yourself on this matter instead of draw bullshit conclusions from your limited experience of being ONE parent, you'd have known the parents of the Columbine psychopath ran the house very strictly due to military experience. Now that the FACTS are on my side, I could draw the same ridiculous conclusion that being super strict and intrusive leads to school shootings. But the kid had a psychiatric disorder. I would no more blame the parenting for that then if their kid had Down syndrome.Parents who don't monitor their children's interactions with other people end up being parents of Columbine shooters
So are parents, apparently. Age to join facebook or any other social website is 13. The only thing you just "implied" is that you have no clue what you're talking about. So when you go on to say things like "if they need my permission I'm going to monitor it", guess what?! They don't! And let me guess, you still think you should monitor it, which shows your "justification" is a poor attempt at charade. Don't make excuses for your poor reasoning, ESPECIALLY when it doesn't apply because you don't know what you're talking about.Not only that, I think a kid has to be 18 to open a facebook page. That implies something right there. If they need my permission, guess what, I'm going to monitor it. There are all sorts of sick fucks out there, and kids are supremely stupid.
Ah. I see. The legitimate research from across the world analyzing thousands of families that is published after being highly scrutinized in reputable peer reviewed journals can be completely discredit NOT because it's bad research, but because one mom doesn't agree. You just exhibited ignorance in a nutshell. You can't find any research that suggests invasion of privacy in adolescents leads to any good outcomes.Bullshit.
You keep asking these desperate questions regarding my experience in parenting in an attempt to discredit me. Forget MY experience. What about yours? As I see it, your experience is as large as ONE household. Maybe two if you want to include your parents. The research I presented draws on experience from THOUSANDS of families. Your unsupported beliefs are insignificant in comparison.
In summation:
- You know nothing about adolescent psychology
- You refuse to believe published knowledge well known to the medical community on adolescent psychology
- You make up poor excuses as to why you should invade privacy, even if those excuses don't apply
- You know nothing about the parenting techniques of adolescent psychopaths, completely fabricating poor assumptions to fill in your deficits
- You know nothing about the actual constrictions of electronic communication, completing fabricating poor assumptions to fill in your deficits, and yet despite all these limitations and shortcomings:
- You still think you are in a good position to tell others "how it is"
What you haven't realized is that there's more than one way to skin a cat. Instead of forcing your safety upon them through privacy invasion, at the cost of increased likelihood of poor grades, depression, and anxiety, why not teach them how to fend for themselves? Or perhaps you believe your children are too moronic to understand strangers with candy are bad?
I know it can be very upsetting and insulting to hear that thousands of families prove your method of parenting is not actually the best way to raise a young adult. I get that's why you're very defensive right now. Chances are even if you remain stubborn instead of acknowledging legitimate research, your children are still going to turn out just fine. There will just be much more anxiety, conflict, and depression taking the place of learning and fostering independence.
This is ridiculous.Parents who don't monitor their children's interactions with other people end up being parents of Columbine shooters
Ah. I see.Bullshit.
In summation:
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- You know nothing about adolescent psychology
Oh yawn. You are so wrong it's painful. I hope you'll learn as you age, before you have kids.
The columbine kids' parents knew NOTHING about what those kids were doing in their spare time. They respected their privacy.
Come to think of it..Jeffrey Dahmer is another example of a kid who was MSWs generally agree with my view. We talk about this stuff on a daily basis.
....14 yr old daughter, my youngest and last child. She's fallen down on the job, as she's starting to spread her wings in her first year of High School. She's a great kid, strong-willed, highly intelligent, plays soccer, responsible student, and very pretty, blue-eyed blond adorable.
One thing I know, teenagers of today are given way too much freedom. A lot of them are handed the keys to the car, or given their own cars, without much accountability. There is social pressure on parents, as well, to cave into this unfortunate societal norm. Especially our daughters need our protection and oversight, in these days when giving blow jobs not considered anything more than making out, and some girls will do anything to keep a boyfriend. Date rape drugs can be easily slipped into drinks at parties, with dire results, as is what happened in these parts only very recently.
Teenage girls are naive and vulnerable.
This is ridiculous.
Ah. I see.
In summation:
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- You know nothing about adolescent psychology
Oh yawn. You are so wrong it's painful. I hope you'll learn as you age, before you have kids.
The columbine kids' parents knew NOTHING about what those kids were doing in their spare time. They respected their privacy.
Come to think of it..Jeffrey Dahmer is another example of a kid who was MSWs generally agree with my view. We talk about this stuff on a daily basis.
Do you guys honestly believe the kid in the OP has Jeffrey Dahmer potential?
....14 yr old daughter, my youngest and last child. She's fallen down on the job, as she's starting to spread her wings in her first year of High School. She's a great kid, strong-willed, highly intelligent, plays soccer, responsible student, and very pretty, blue-eyed blond adorable.
That she's been taking pics of half-eaten corpses and keeping them on her cell phone?
Oh yawn. You are so wrong it's painful. I hope you'll learn as you age, before you have kids.
The columbine kids' parents knew NOTHING about what those kids were doing in their spare time. They respected their privacy.
Again, you seem to only see this issue in extremes, where kids are either prone to any exploration you deem fit without regard for privacy, or they're your boss and completely off limits. Had you read the articles, you'd see that limit setting is a perfectly beneficial hands-on method of interaction. TEACHING your kids what to identify and ASKING them about their lives is much better than FORCING things from them.Statistically speaking, it's unlikely.
The point is, parents never think their kids are being targeted, or targeting others, until it's too late. And that is because... (drum roll)....
they have opted out of their kids' lives. Affording them all the privacy they would afford to their bosses (since it's unlikely they'd allow co-workers to have that much privacy) and other adult figures of authority.
In other words, pretending the kids are grown up, responsible adults long before they are, and at the peril of their kid.
I know everyone's been dying for my opinion, so here it is...
Tell your daughter she may not lock her phone unless she gives you the password. If she does, she loses the phone permanently.
Tell her you will not read her texts unless you have cause to believe she is going off the rails.
Easy.
YOu have the phone bill? All calls to and from are logged on the bill.
As are all text messages.
Unless you are afraid she is sexting (kind of early for that with a 14 year old) I would just check the bill. Which is what you should be doing anyway
By not trusting her, she loses a bit of trust in you. You'll scour the phone to find out she's a good kid, which apparently you weren't able to tell from the start.
So what do you think she's learned from this? What have you taught her?
And discuss regularly with the kids when texting is appropriate, and when it isn''t. And what is appropriate on facebook...and what isn't. It's not a place to spill your guts or to advertise your loneliness or your schedule.
And discuss regularly with the kids when texting is appropriate, and when it isn''t. And what is appropriate on facebook...and what isn't. It's not a place to spill your guts or to advertise your loneliness or your schedule.
I think the kids rely on texting too much. They want to discuss everything via text.
That was part of this whole problem. I need a real conversation before making a decision regarding giving permission for something. I think texting is not an appropriate media for important conversations.
And discuss regularly with the kids when texting is appropriate, and when it isn''t. And what is appropriate on facebook...and what isn't. It's not a place to spill your guts or to advertise your loneliness or your schedule.
I think the kids rely on texting too much. They want to discuss everything via text.
That was part of this whole problem. I need a real conversation before making a decision regarding giving permission for something. I think texting is not an appropriate media for important conversations.
It certainly is not an appropriate media for texting something you don't want plastered all over Facebook or otherwise made widely public. Ditto for pictures and other stuff that could be an embarrassment or used against you later on.
well middle did you unlock the phone and look?
i would. simple as that.....kids can bluff and they are rely on the fact that most parents dont really want to know
