Would you stay in a sexless relationship?

[strollingbones]

i believe the brain is the largest sex organ...if he couldnt i would stay....if he wouldnt i would go....i dont believe in viagra...the side effects being heart damage and all..

 

[chanel]

 

[editec]

Depends on everything else about the relationship, doesn't it?

 

[strollingbones]

well i would think refusing to have sex with your partner says a lot about the relationship...doesnt it?

 

[inquisitive]

well i would think refusing to have sex with your partner says a lot about the relationship...doesnt it?

I wholeheartedly believe that if anyone has been cut off than they have most likely contributed to it in some way. The only time a woman may cut a man off(when it's not medical) is if he is treating her like crap, or if he has cheated.

I believe with men it's different. I had a friend who was ridiculously overweight(she looked about 300pounds) and she always complained that he husb NEVER wanted sex. She said she'd wear the lingerie, bust out the champagne etc, and he would never budge. I had another friend as well who had the same problem, and she was overweight as well. I put 2+2 together and figured that it had to be the weight. Most healthy young men do not turn sex down.

 

[KittenKoder]

Saw this question on another forum where a condition prevents some women from having intercourse b/c they involuntarily have spasms down yonder, making sex too painful.

Women, if your husband had a medical impotent problem, would you stand by his side, even if that meant no sex again?

Men, if your wife had a med condition which prevented her from being intimate sexually(vaginally) could you stand by her side?

Why or why not?

It's the only relationship I would have.

 

[JenT]

My wife cut me off in late 99. Said she was no longer interested in sex. We are still married. First couple years we stayed together cause of the kids and then I just adjusted to it.

I wouldn't mind if she found someone else but I am not currently planning to leave her. Been married 26 years.

Wow. I'm speechless. I didn't think men like you existed. God bless you RGS.

What BLESSED kids you must have!

I regret divorcing my first husband because it really was a LOT harder on my sons than I thought.

On the other hand if I stayed with him, they might all think it's okay that the woman makes all the money, shovels all the snow, stacks all the wood, does all the cooking and cleaning and waits on them hand and foot....

oh wait, they all think that anyway

THINK of all the sex I missed out on because of divorce!!! AAAARGH!!!!

USMessageboard has just RUINED my LIFE!

 

[Douger]

Well. My buddy came over the other day and asked if'n I got me ssome pussy from the ole lady for my birthday.
I told him I aint had nunna that in years and years.

He saiz ' Why not"
I told him she had been diagnosed with Gonorrhea.
He saiz " Oh that sucks.

" Maybe shell give you a BJ ! "
I teld him, NOOP she gots the pyorrhea too.
He says. That's unfukkinbelievable !
I saiz. Yeah it sucks bigtime.

He saiz " Man you gotta get something ! Go in ther and stick it in her ass ! "
I saiz Noop. She go.......
WAIT . He saiz
" Lemme guess ! "

Yep, I said.
She gots the diarrhea too.

 

[Cecilie1200]

well i would think refusing to have sex with your partner says a lot about the relationship...doesnt it?

Not really. A lot of the time, it just says something about you. There are scads of reasons why a person's sex drive might decline over time.

 

[Luissa]

I hope my sex drive never declines!

 

[Cecilie1200]

I hope my sex drive never declines!

lt will. Everyone's does naturally as one gets older. The important point is whether it declines close enough in tandem with your partner's as to allow you both to still be satisfied by your relationship.

And, of course, one hopes the relationship becomes deeper and more complex as time passes as to allow sex to become less all-consuming a concern.

 

[Luissa]

that I do hope for also. I just hope when I am 80 I will still want to have it at least once a month.

 

[Article 15]

that I do hope for also. I just hope when I am 80 I will still want to have it at least once a month.

I predict a broken hip in your distant future ....

 

[JenT]

that I do hope for also. I just hope when I am 80 I will still want to have it at least once a month.

I predict a broken hip in your distant future ....

so THATS why they're always "falling down"

 

[RadiomanATL]

a condition prevents some women from having intercourse b/c they involuntarily have spasms down yonder, making sex too painful.

Yeah, but that makes it doubly pleasurable for the guy, so there's no net change in the equation.



Am I going to hell?

Not really, in these cases many times the man can't even enter. It's like shutting your eye closed when something touches your lid, or gets in your eye.

Spasms, right? That just means its a question of timing.....and then holding on.

 

[necritan]

Yeah, but that makes it doubly pleasurable for the guy, so there's no net change in the equation.



Am I going to hell?

Not really, in these cases many times the man can't even enter. It's like shutting your eye closed when something touches your lid, or gets in your eye.

Spasms, right? That just means its a question of timing.....and then holding on.

Yup....just get it in on the backside of a spasm....stay still and let the spasm's do all the work for ya. Hell yeah...!!!!

 

[barry1960]

well i would think refusing to have sex with your partner says a lot about the relationship...doesnt it?

I wholeheartedly believe that if anyone has been cut off than they have most likely contributed to it in some way. The only time a woman may cut a man off(when it's not medical) is if he is treating her like crap, or if he has cheated.

I believe with men it's different. I had a friend who was ridiculously overweight(she looked about 300pounds) and she always complained that he husb NEVER wanted sex. She said she'd wear the lingerie, bust out the champagne etc, and he would never budge. I had another friend as well who had the same problem, and she was overweight as well. I put 2+2 together and figured that it had to be the weight. Most healthy young men do not turn sex down.

I believe what you seem to wholeheartedly believe is an overgeneralization. While I am sure that a woman might want to have sex with someone who mistreats her, then are a number of women who just do not enjoy sex.

My wife and I have not had sex for eight and a half years (my only son's procreation). Our sex life was poor even before that. At two and a half my son was diagnosed with autism and our lives became hellish. My only niece also has autism and genetics are probably one factor in autism (probably several have to come together). Since my family is two for two on autistic kids, my wife is terrified of further sex. Also, she blames me and my genes for my son's autism. She has vowed before God that she will not have sex with me ever again.

As for me, I am not happy about this, but my son needs me so I am there for him and treat my wife as best I can. BTW, my wife is a great mother and loves a boy no one else will love more than life itself.

 

[KittenKoder]

Look, who's theme song should this be:
Everyone Else Has Had More Sex Than Me | Flash Videos

 

[Amanda]

It's questions like this that make me love this board...

I can see running from some relationships because of lack of sex. But... in a situations where you'd get married? Wow... it's really hard for me to imagine being in a relationship where the guy refuses to have sex with me. That would be hard....

I think the reason would be the key. I can't imagine what it would be, but for the right guy... a guy I would have married to begin with... I would listen and try to be understanding.

Such a great question. I'll be thinking about this for weeks.

 

[inquisitive]

well i would think refusing to have sex with your partner says a lot about the relationship...doesnt it?

I wholeheartedly believe that if anyone has been cut off than they have most likely contributed to it in some way. The only time a woman may cut a man off(when it's not medical) is if he is treating her like crap, or if he has cheated.

I believe with men it's different. I had a friend who was ridiculously overweight(she looked about 300pounds) and she always complained that he husb NEVER wanted sex. She said she'd wear the lingerie, bust out the champagne etc, and he would never budge. I had another friend as well who had the same problem, and she was overweight as well. I put 2+2 together and figured that it had to be the weight. Most healthy young men do not turn sex down.

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I believe what you seem to wholeheartedly believe is an overgeneralization. While I am sure that a woman might want to have sex with someone who mistreats her, then are a number of women who just do not enjoy sex.

My wife and I have not had sex for eight and a half years (my only son's procreation). Our sex life was poor even before that. At two and a half my son was diagnosed with autism and our lives became hellish. My only niece also has autism and genetics are probably one factor in autism (probably several have to come together). Since my family is two for two on autistic kids, my wife is terrified of further sex. Also, she blames me and my genes for my son's autism. She has vowed before God that she will not have sex with me ever again.

As for me, I am not happy about this, but my son needs me so I am there for him and treat my wife as best I can. BTW, my wife is a great mother and loves a boy no one else will love more than life itself.

I'm sorry for your situation, and your case sounds more like the exception to the rule.

I still believe the majority of women who withold do so for spite b/c they are consciously or
subconciously mad at the hubbies.It's the whole emotional connection thing.

There are marriages where it's the wife who wants sex all the time, or scenarios where the husband isn't into sex all that much...however they are not the majority of marriages. Personally I know i could never withold sex from my husband. Even the times i don't want to have sex, i will, b/c it's not fair to turn him down. Mariage is about compromise, and that includes sex. Plus I likey sex(gasp)

Frankly I'll never understand the women who CONSTANTLY say no.....they are the first ones surprised when they find out their man strayed. I hope your wife sees what she is doing is wrong, and gets help. How do you deprive a spouse you are supposed to love? Mind boggling to me, really!!!! I can understand a woman saying ''no, not in the mood a few times a week, or a month, but still having it at LEAST once a month, but to go yrs and yrs without having sex? Wow.