I only have two children in the traditional sense, but lots of students, so we may have a meeting place. We expect the children under our immediate supervision to obey for the simple reason that is what is best for the entire family and/or the entire class--ultimately, the school. Or, in the case of God/Creator what is best for an entire world.
There are numerous choices for us as individuals to make, but don't we also try to establish the common ground so that all are free to pursue individual goals?
Way back when, read an old college dorm sign with the bold heading RULES. Underneath is quiet letters was this: Gentlemen need none. My kids (all of them) love that rule.
God did give us Ten Commandments, which are the Guidelines for happy, peaceful lives for all. Are any of these unneeded? If so, which ones?