And give it to who?
Society will not be apying for foster care or orphanage care for the child?
And when she has another?
Are you for forced sterilization?
Society has been paying the costs of foster homes and orphanages for decades. The administrator of the orphanage I was in wrote a sugar coated book about the orphanage while I was there - early to mid 50s. There was a chapter about costs (a plea for more financial support). According to the book the cost was $28,000 per child per year. When I went back to the Home for the annual Homecoming in the '70s the cost had jumped to a six-figure number, per child, per year. God only knows how much it might cost today. Example: my mother paid the Home $25 per month for my care and support ... leaving the rest of the $28,000 to be paid by private donations and public assistance, child labor means, etc.
There was NEVER a time when I spent $28,000 per child, per year, to raise my children - let alone paying 6 figures per child. How many ordinary people actually make those kinds of expenditures?
It depends which costs you're factoring in. In a family home some of the overhead isn't apparent. For example, the parents aren't paid staff with salary and benefits. The mortgage or rent and property maintenance would be paid regardless for the parent to have a place to live. The home would be heated regardless. These are solely attributable to the child in an institutional facility. Don't forget every child in an institution or foster care being on medicaid, so all of their health care expenses are included. And so on. When all of those are directly and solely tied to the child's expenses and not those of the parents or family in general it adds up fast.
And give it to who?
Society will not be apying for foster care or orphanage care for the child?
And when she has another?
Are you for forced sterilization?
Society has been paying the costs of foster homes and orphanages for decades. The administrator of the orphanage I was in wrote a sugar coated book about the orphanage while I was there - early to mid 50s. There was a chapter about costs (a plea for more financial support). According to the book the cost was $28,000 per child per year. When I went back to the Home for the annual Homecoming in the '70s the cost had jumped to a six-figure number, per child, per year. God only knows how much it might cost today. Example: my mother paid the Home $25 per month for my care and support ... leaving the rest of the $28,000 to be paid by private donations and public assistance, child labor means, etc.
There was NEVER a time when I spent $28,000 per child, per year, to raise my children - let alone paying 6 figures per child. How many ordinary people actually make those kinds of expenditures?
It depends which costs you're factoring in. In a family home some of the overhead isn't apparent. For example, the parents aren't paid staff with salary and benefits. The mortgage or rent and property maintenance would be paid regardless for the parent to have a place to live. The home would be heated regardless. These are solely attributable to the child in an institutional facility. Don't forget every child in an institution or foster care being on medicaid, so all of their health care expenses are included. And so on. When all of those are directly and solely tied to the child's expenses and not those of the parents or family in general it adds up fast.
I'm well aware of those expenses - housing, utilities, medical, school, childcare, clothing ... parents have to pay all of those things themselves - and they don't lay out that kind of money doing it.
I can't speak for other orphanages, but this is how it was for the one I was in. It was a 350+/- farm with five 2-story houses for children and an administration building as the primary buildings and others that were used for purposes other than housing children. Buildings were added as needed one at a time with available funding. There were always 100 or more kids - 20 per building. Each bedroom had 3 to 5 children.
We grew the vast majority of our food and canned part of it for winter. The older girls sweated blood working in the on-site cannery. We had 32 milk cows, some pigs and chickens and we grew the fodder and kept it in on-site silos for winter food . The boys worked all that by hand, fed the pigs, milked the cows ... and got the shit beat out of them every day by whatever was handy - leather straps, wooden paddles with holes drilled into them (more painful), belts - whatever. The milk was given to a local dairy for pasteurization in exchange for all the milk we could drink for a day - the rest was bottled and sold by the dairy. No cost to the Home for milk.
Some boys were also farmed out up and down the Shenandoah Valley to pick apples, cherries, strawberries - whatever was in season. The farmers got free labor in exchange for all the fruit we could eat - the ones that wouldn't sell on the market. No cost to the Home. The older girls did the cooking and ran the commercial dishwasher and the younger girls cleared tables, dried all the dishes (barefoot in summer in pools of steaming hot water and using what passed for dishtowels, reset the tables, swept floors, etc. in the dining room.
The choirs - we had two choirs - one for the little boys and one for the little girls. We were shuttled around all over VA and West VA on alternating weekends to sing in various churches. The day we sang all the collection money was turned over "to the children." The boys choir tended to bring in more money than the girls choir because they had these angelic high pitched voices. Once their voice "cracked" and went into a deeper tone - they were of no further use to the choir and were kicked out.
We got clothes from "the storage room" - things discarded/donated by other people. We wore whatever fit us and when it no longer fit it was given to a younger/smaller child to wear - and that included shoes. At the end of winter clothing/shoes were returned to the storage room for redistribution and replaced by summer clothing - we usually went barefoot in summer except for shoes to go the church. There were no real clothing expenses to the Home.
There was no air conditioning then. In winter the main furnace was allowed to die out for the night and the next morning the boys were up early shoveling coal - I guess to heat water that was then pumped to the radiators. We didn't have lights on all over the house - only the room where we all were gathered. Lights could come on when it was bedtime and lights out was at 10:00 - just enough time for us to change clothes and get into bed.
Baths - no waste there. My house had one bathroom/tub downstairs and one bathroom/two tubs upstairs. Here's how that worked. We took baths once a week. Each tub was filled once, used by two girls at a time - the first girls got the clean, hot water and the last girls got the accumulative dirtier and much cooler water. THEN the water was drained out. And while I'm on the subject of bathrooms - we were supposed to use one square of toilet paper. Right. It's probably why I reel off toilet paper the way I do.
We never saw a doctor or dentist unless it was for something like a broken bone or severe injury. No yearly physicals or dental checkups for us. One heartbreaking example: there was a younger girl who was always skinny as a rail and sort of sickly looking. She got real sick one night and a doctor was finally called in. He said there was nothing wrong with her and she got the shit beat out of her for lying. In adulthood, she lost two children prematurely and one had to be taken from her because she had a life or death heart situation. THAT's when cardiac specialists found out she had a serious heart mummer as a child and that she would never be able to carry a child to full term.
It's the way it was - there's no way in hell that at the time I was there it cost $28,000 per child, per year. We children did a damned lot of work to pay for our keep.
It is a shame you cannot follow a thread for comprehension. I originally posted it was not a good idea, and what was not a good idea was what CG said that you replied to:
Adopt the child out.
