What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Selene?

[Anathema]

I am sorry to hear that and hope the best for you and your loved ones. I also hope that you can somehow find peace and give those you love good memories in the time you have left.........whether that be from cancer, or old age. Cancer treatments have come a long way in helping people survive what once was considered unsurvivable. There are also natural and holistic measures to help that along. But the biggest and most important factor, IMHO, is your mindset. You can be angry at what life has dealt you but will you give in to it? I would guess giving in or giving up is not something you do or are familiar with.

If there was no mass, would you continue your life? Living it out in whatever manner you do now?? Then don't let this stop you just because you think you're doomed to repeat what happened to your father. It's up to you to break that cycle. In the end, it may very well happen in the same or similar manner, but you have to atleast give it a good fight. For yourself, for your wife and for those around you, pets and all.

We should find out a lot more on Mo day afternoon when we get the results from the second biopsy and the CT scan of the mass. If they’re still inconclusive then we have to do surgery to find out what we’re dealing with. I’ve quit more than a few things over my lifetime. Not everything but enough things.

As for my trajectory without this issue… I’m not sure. I’ve spent the last decade supporting anywhere from 4 to 10 members of my wife’s family with us in our home. It’s getting to a point where I’m not sure how much longer I can do this before I snap.

 

[citygator]

I think you should simply tell your 15 year old self some stock tips and some Super Bowl winners.

You seem like you are in a tough spot man. Some advice is to simply forgive and forget what transgressions you feel you have suffered and spend time with love.

 

[JustAnotherNut]

We should find out a lot more on Mo day afternoon when we get the results from the second biopsy and the CT scan of the mass. If they’re still inconclusive then we have to do surgery to find out what we’re dealing with. I’ve quit more than a few things over my lifetime. Not everything but enough things.

As for my trajectory without this issue… I’m not sure. I’ve spent the last decade supporting anywhere from 4 to 10 members of my wife’s family with us in our home. It’s getting to a point where I’m not sure how much longer I can do this before I snap.

Then ask for their help. Either put up or shut up (aka get out) which is kind of a double edged sword. Your wife will need them as her support thru all of this, regardless of how it unfolds.........but you also need your space to get thru it, without the added stress. I do wish you well, and hope you'll update with the test results, but that is really up to you and I understand if you don't. And most especially, I hope you don't quit or give up, but fight back with everything you've got. Cancer is a real *****, been there, done that 11 years ago.

 

[Donald H]

Go right ahead

Contact me by p.m. to show you're being sincere.

 

[Anathema]

Well, after today’s appointment we have exactly ZERO additional clarity about what this damn thing in my neck is.

The second culture/biopsy revealed no more than the first. The CT scan reveals the mass is larger than we thought and there are also two enlarged lymph nodes and potentially up to three other smaller masses. As of right now the projection is that it’s an infected cyst.

Middle of next week they’re going to go in, remove the mass, do a frozen sample to determine what it is while I’m still out and then clean out whatever is necessary if it turns out to be cancerous.

I hate this “Hurry Up & Wait” bullshit.

 

[MayorQuimby]

I've been wondering lately what I would do if I could back to my 15 y/o self. (60 years ago)

I think I would locate and kill a dozen or so to-be politicians that I feel have fucked up the country,


The I'd put the barrel of a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger.

If you gonna kill yourself, you should murder more politicians than a dozen.

 

[Concerned American]

Well, after today’s appointment we have exactly ZERO additional clarity about what this damn thing in my neck is.

The second culture/biopsy revealed no more than the first. The CT scan reveals the mass is larger than we thought and there are also two enlarged lymph nodes and potentially up to three other smaller masses. As of right now the projection is that it’s an infected cyst.

Middle of next week they’re going to go in, remove the mass, do a frozen sample to determine what it is while I’m still out and then clean out whatever is necessary if it turns out to be cancerous.

I hate this “Hurry Up & Wait” bullshit.

Hang in there, buddy. Sounds like you got a bit of good news today. I know that the uncertainty is frustrating---hopefully, it is just a benign cyst and it will all be over and done with next week.

 

[Anathema]

Hang in there, buddy. Sounds like you got a bit of good news today. I know that the uncertainty is frustrating---hopefully, it is just a benign cyst and it will all be over and done with next week.

We got news that wasn’t bad. She thinks it’s a cyst but cannot say it definitively. I’ll be out of work all week next week. The pre-op appointment is on Monday. Surgery on Wednesday and possibly an overnight stay in the hospital. Recovery through the weekend then hopefully back to work (from home) on Monday the 7th.

 

[Concerned American]

We got news that wasn’t bad. She thinks it’s a cyst but cannot say it definitively. I’ll be out of work all week next week. The pre-op appointment is on Monday. Surgery on Wednesday and possibly an overnight stay in the hospital. Recovery through the weekend then hopefully back to work (from home) on Monday the 7th.

Good luck! I'm hoping for a successful surgery and quick recovery.

 

[whitehall]

Depending on what type of cancer you might have it's a given that the first thing you tell your 15 year old self is don't take up smoking. That's cigarettes and dope.

 

[Anathema]

Depending on what type of cancer you might have it's a given that the first thing you tell your 15 year old self is don't take up smoking. That's cigarettes and dope.

Never smoked, no drugs (not even marijuana) and very limited echo consumption. Coca-cola has been my vice for the last 50 years

 

[Anathema]

Good luck! I'm hoping for a successful surgery and quick recovery.

Thank you. I’m just hoping for decisive answers at this point.

 

[BackAgain]

I've been wondering lately what I would do if I could back to my 15 y/o self. (60 years ago)

I think I would locate and kill a dozen or so to-be politicians that I feel have fucked up the country,


The I'd put the barrel of a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger.

This thread started off on a down beat. And you brought out a powerful drill for deeper digging.

Wow.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

My plan to overcome unused to be simple… .45 ACP to the skull. Now that I’m married it’s more complicated. That’s one of the reasons I’d go back and tell myself - no connections.

Why would being married be more complicated? Why would you even bother caring? Slip out the back Jack and every one for themselves.

The difference between your cancer and your dad's cancer is the treatment. Cancer is no longer the death sentence it once was.

My 15 year old self was a pretty savvy girl. I was working, out of the house and self supporting. My mother had all kinds of concerns and insisted I get married. Not that I would let marriage interfere with my life. So I married the poor sot. Three months later I found a better candidate. 14 years later I wanted out. I went to college, law school and had a successful law practice for 35 years. At no time did I ever imagine that being married complicated anything. The door is open, the road wide. Anything else is a poor, infantile, excuse.

 

[fncceo]

What would you tell your 15 year old self to do differently?

Buy Apple.

 

[Moonglow]

What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Selene?​

No hockey hair.

 

[ThisIsMe]

As I sit around the house waiting for the results of several medical tests which will determine if I have Cancer or not,

I’ve been asking myself what one thing i would tell my 15 year old self to do differently if I could go back and talk to my 15 year old self.

What would you tell your 15 year old self to do differently?

For me it’s very simple… No connections. No girls. No friends. Separate from the family as early as possible. Don’t get close with anyone at school or work. No clubs or extra-curricular activities. Just yourself.

Hope you get good news.

As for what id tell my younger self..it would be "they were wrong...it won't make you go blind!"

 

[Anathema]

Quick (and very Kate) update:

Had the surgery last Wednesday. In and out, same day. They took the bass and both lymph nodes. Everything came back clean (benign).

They took the drain out of my neck back on Monday and said everything looked good.

I go back on the 18th to have the sutures removed from the incision around my neck. I’m hoping to have full mobility of the shoulder and neck by then.

 

[JustAnotherNut]

Quick (and very Kate) update:

Had the surgery last Wednesday. In and out, same day. They took the bass and both lymph nodes. Everything came back clean (benign).

They took the drain out of my neck back on Monday and said everything looked good.

I go back on the 18th to have the sutures removed from the incision around my neck. I’m hoping to have full mobility of the shoulder and neck by then.

So very glad for you and hope for a speedy recovery.

Now to just get the inlaws to help out

 

[Anathema]

So very glad for you and hope for a speedy recovery.

Now to just get the inlaws to help out

They help out a good bit around the house. I just wish sometimes that they had more to offer financially