Hardly any Vietnam vet will discuss the war, even now. Suicides, homelessness, disgrace, broken promises, Agent Orange, Hanoi Jane...that was what they had to look forward to when they came home. Most were lucky if they were greeted by vacant airports. The rest, who we can never apologize to enough, were insulted.
Dante, you just do not come across to me as a 60-something guy. If I'm mistaken, my apologies...but namvet DOES, so I am choosing to reply to him rather than shutting up about this as you have asked -- and as we've all been doing since 1975. If we don't begin to talk about Vietnam soon, we're all going to die never having said our piece or made amends.
I was a protestor, and I smuggled draft dodgers into Canada. And NO, I am not comparing my experience to any vet's. But it was not all sunshine and roses for us either. I was beaten, gassed, followed, and spied on. What I did, I did because I thought it was right. I thought then -- and I still do -- that it was an insane war made up by rich old men to engorge themselves on money while people died.
I have a friend who was a Contientious Objector. He lived in Florida, on the Atlantic Coast and when he was drafted he appeared before the board, said "no, I'm not going" and waited to be arrested. Draft dodging was a crime, and he felt he should be treated like a criminal. It took him three months of going from county to county before he found a DA in Jacksonville who agreed to prosecute him...and he did two years in the Federal Pen. Believe me, he could easily have enrolled in college and gotten a waiver -- but he felt he needed to be where Nixon thought men like him belonged in order to make a point. CO's were couragous -- so were vets. So was damned near an entire generation.
Some of the people who stayed on US soil were acting out of conscience, and some of what we did helped to end that miserable war...saving at least some lives. For all the Hanoi Janes, and there weren't many, there are hundreds thousands of people like my friend. And like me...I wore a POW bracelet until like 1995.
It is time to we forgave one another, if you ask me. If we wait much longer there'll be nobody left alive TO forgive. We can all go on hating on **** Fonda. I hated her them and I still do -- she's NEVER made dime one off me. But we have got to stop blaming each other for the pain we suffered. Even My Lai appears now to have been more sick shit from Nixon, to discredit Vietnam Veterans Against The War. It was NOT our fault -- it was Nixon's.
Yes My Lai shocked me, but I was a child-woman, and had never been in combat. (Still haven't.) All I knew was about Vietnam I learned in a few minutes with Walter Chronkite every night. I know NOW I should have been more compassionate (and far more suspicious of the Army brass), but I was swept up in the horror story like every one else I knew. Kids my age, from where I lived, had done such a thing? It hardly seemed possible.
BTW, I was never anything less than respectful, even awed, by the returning vets who began showing up on our college campus on the GI Bill. It was obvious to me they were in terrible pain, but I didn't know how to reach out to them then.
It's been 40 years. Can I try again now?