The Rise of Lonely, Single Men

[Blaster]

Only until their looks begin to fade

Too many women getting tats.

 

[Woodznutz]

Many women are self absorbed and take selfies constantly.

Women are masters of disguise.

 

[Mac-7]

And once a woman goes down on you that's all you think about.

You wont think very much about marriage, children and fidelity

 

[Woodznutz]

You wont think very much about marriage, children and fidelity

Once married a husband and wife should do whatever pleases them sexually as long as it's agreeable to both.

 

[JohnDB]

Long term consequences....

Everyone gets old....
Everyone eventually needs others.

When you face retirement are you going to be a curmudgeon or spinster or have a life rich in friends and family?
A computer screen doesn't give hugs of love and appreciation.

 

[bodecea]

"Winning"? Wrong attitude. Women are not prizes at the county fair.

Apparently, that poster thinks so.

 

[Blaster]

Long term consequences....

Everyone gets old....
Everyone eventually needs others.

When you face retirement are you going to be a curmudgeon or spinster or have a life rich in friends and family?
A computer screen doesn't give hugs of love and appreciation.

I'm 33 and single but my parents have been happily married for over 50 years.

 

[Woodznutz]

Long term consequences....

Everyone gets old....
Everyone eventually needs others.

When you face retirement are you going to be a curmudgeon or spinster or have a life rich in friends and family?
A computer screen doesn't give hugs of love and appreciation.

"Men age gracefully.
Women just get old."

 

[bodecea]

Too many women getting tats.

So?

 

[Woodznutz]

I'm 33 and single but my parents have been happily married for over 50 years.

I didn't marry until I was 32, and I could have waited longer (maybe should have).

 

[Woodznutz]

Too many women getting tats.

I don't mind as long as it reads "Property of Woodznutz".

 

[Foxfyre]

ounger and middle-aged men are the loneliest they’ve been in generations, and it’s probably going to get worse.

This is not my typical rosy view of relationships but a reality nonetheless. Over the last 30 years, men have become a larger portion of that growing group of long-term single people. And while you don’t actually need to be in a relationship to be happy, men typically are happier and healthier when partnered.


Here are three broad trends in the relationship landscape that suggest heterosexual men are in for a rough road ahead:

• Dating Apps. Whether you’re just starting to date or you’re recently divorced and dating again, dating apps are a huge driver of new romantic connections in the United States. The only problem is that upwards of 62% of users are men and many women are overwhelmed by the number of options they have. Competition in online dating is fierce, and lucky in-person chance encounters with dreamy partners are rarer than ever.
• Relationship Standards. With so many options, it’s not surprising that women are increasingly selective. I do a live TikTok show (@abetterloveproject) and speak with hundreds of audience members every week; I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, who are good communicators, and who share their values.
• Skills Deficits. For men, this means a relationship skills gap that, if not addressed, will likely lead to fewer dating opportunities and longer periods of being single. There's less patience for poor communication skills today. The problem for men is that emotional connection is the lifeblood of healthy, long-term love and it requires all the skills that families still are not consistently teaching young boys.

While there’s probably no chance of stemming the rising tide of unintentional single men, there is some good news.

The algorithms are becoming increasingly more complex on dating apps and other online platforms. One result is that great matches are on the rise. One dating app, Hinge, found through beta trials that 90% of users rated their first date positively, with 72% indicating that they wanted a second date.


How can men reap the benefit of the algorithms? Level up your mental health game. That means getting into some individual therapy to address your skills gap. It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively. It means seeing intimacy, romance, and emotional connection as worthy of your time and effort.


Ultimately, we have an opportunity to revolutionize romantic relationships and establish new, healthier norms starting with the first date. It’s likely that some of these romances will be transformative and healing, disrupting generational trauma and establishing a fresh culture of admiration and validation.


Men have a key role in this transformation but only if they go all-in. It’s going to take that kind of commitment to themselves, to their mental health, and to the kind of love they want to generate in the world. Will we step up?

The Rise of Lonely, Single Men

Damn, talk about a snake-oil salesman.

The components that seem missing in all this is
a) proper training in etiquette and good manners. I observe so much faux pas in public these days I wonder that some of these young men (also women) attract anybody at all.

b) strong family. Those coming from strong nuclear families seem to manage socially much more naturally and effectively.

c) religious faith. I have worked with kids through young adults (also older adults) off and on most of my life and have observed that young Christians who practice their faith are rarely lonely and almost all do marry and a large majority of those marriages are for life and from all appearances are happy.

I think too many young people now are lacking in one or all of those things these days and that is to their detriment.

 

[Mac-7]

Once married a husband and wife should do whatever pleases them sexually as long as it's agreeable to both.

Including screwing other people?

That usually leads to trouble

 

[Blaster]

Including screwing other people?

That usually leads to trouble

Those open marriages usually do fail.

 

[Blues Man]

Including screwing other people?

That usually leads to trouble

Still their choice and none of your business

 

[Mac-7]

Still their choice and none of your business

No kidding?

Did you think I was planning to impose morality on them?

 

[Harpy Eagle]

You wont think very much about marriage, children and fidelity

This may blow your tiny little mind, but married women go down on their husbands and vice versa

 

[Mac-7]

This may blow your tiny little mind, but married women go down on their husbands and vice versa

Or maybe someone else's husband

 

[JohnDB]

Women with visible tattoos get dates and have lots of boyfriends and at least one baby daddy or two or three.

Women without visible tattoos get husbands and high skill/high paying careers

That's what statistics are showing.
There are exceptions.....but generally speaking this is what the statistics reveal.

It's about making choices that create long term consequences. And the personalities and character and appearances do not have much to do with the end results of the statistics. Meaning that guys might date Women with tattoos but for whatever reason refuse to commit. Even when the guys themselves have tattoos they still want a wife that doesn't. It might by misogynistic but that's not really the point either...if young women want a good career and a husband they have to forego the tattoos and find another means of self expression.

There's a "window" of expectations that guys have for "wives"....and even today that window of accepted behaviors doesn't include permanent tattoos.

 

[Unkotare]

Women with tats generally are trashy idiots. Not all, but it's a good bet.