No, you do not comprehend what I have said at all.
Catholics celebrate the Eucharist as the actual body and blood of Christ. It has been Church tradition (one confirmed in scripture) that there are protocols to follow to receive worthily. One must believe through the bread and wine, one is consuming the body and blood of Jesus Christ.
In preparing herself for the Catholic Mass, did your wife prepare herself by coming to believe that the Eucharist is the Body and Blood of Christ? Did your wife prepare herself by going to her first confession? That is how Catholics prepare themselves for celebration. Throughout the Mass we are preparing for and participating in the teachings of Christ. One of his teachings is, "This is my body...This is my blood." This is what we celebrate each and every Mass. Was your wife prepared to celebrate this? Or, did she prepare herself to celebrate something else?
Second, note that in our discussion I have continually noted that the difference in beliefs about the Eucharist is why it is not open to all because all do not believe that the bread and wine actually are the body and blood of Christ. Your argument is, "But it hurt her feelings....She wanted to come into your celebration and celebrate her way." When this was not to be she left and apparently let it be known far and wide she was upset and wouldn't step into a Catholic Church again.
What has the most value: Faith or feelings? It seems to me you are declaring feelings come above faith, that Catholics should give up their faith in order not to hurt someone's feelings. Is that what you are saying? If not, what is it you are saying? What is your logic? I'm sticking with faith and logic and am remaining calm. You are going with feelings and apparently your feelings are rising to the level of calling me names.