Nope. You dont build your own roads and bridges or keep your own fire service. We are all beneficiaries of a community effort.
You just want an argument. NOBODY has ever advocated shutting down roads, bridges, and fire services to gays and you know it. That is NEVER been an argument made by gays to politicians.
You want the recognition so that you can impose yourself on heterosexuals for things like teaching jobs in public schools; you want legal recognition so that you can get medical and dental services for your significant other. There is no need for you to start going down the road of logical fallacies and straw man arguments that lead you to ad hominems.
Let me be blunt. Society doesn't have to acknowledge you any more than they have to accept white supremacists or Moonies for that matter. The modern American doesn't give two hoots in Hell about the Republic; all that matters is majority rule. You won't even hear REPUBLICANS extol the virtues of a REPUBLIC. At best they will tell you this is a "
democratic republic" which is tantamount to saying virgin whore. The biggest difference between a Republic and a Democracy is that in a Republic you have
unalienable Rights - that is to say Rights that are above the reach of government.
If someone opposes you, you are wasting their time with arm twisting techniques. They might be effective for a while, but that comes to an abrupt halt at some point. Rather than argue with you, let me suggest a page out of the right wing play book.
If you believe you have a Right to be married, don't ask for the government's permission, go get married. If you want legal permission, maybe you should just say civil union since it really isn't wise to use the power of government to change the meaning of words. But, just do it. If you don't get what you want out of society, start groups and businesses that will cater to your needs. There are no laws prohibiting you from starting an insurance company that will recognize unregistered gay marriages and giving them the same benefits provided to the heterosexuals that have asked the government to do something they claimed they had a Right to do in the first place.
If you get into states that don't want you to be a teacher in the public school system, get over it. You can't reproduce any way. So, leave those jurisdictions alone. Go to a more open atmosphere. Where I live, a Democrat, Stacey Abrams got over 48 percent of the gubernatorial vote and almost took the county I live in. She only carried a few largely populated counties. And if you look today, any place there is enough room, apartments and small cluster home communities are going up here so as to insure that Abrams will become a part of the political landscape. So, when that happens, I will put a For Sale sign on my house, find a place more conducive to my lifestyle and move there. That is my advice to you.