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Yeah.... this is why you get married young, and stick it out.
You men.... what are you thinking? You get used to living the single life, and then trying to merge two people's lives into one, is hell on earth. You end up miserable.
You chicks... what are you thinking? A: The guys who want to be married, are already married. B: The guys who are not married, are not married for a reason. They just want a free ride that doesn't cost a ring to get on. It's not a commitment issue. It's a choice.
Worse yet.... and this is going to piss you girls off, but it's the truth, I'm just a messenger. A guy that is single until he's in his 30s, and then decides to get married and settle down.... that guy isn't looking for you 30+ chicks. He's looking at the 20-year-old chicks.
Want to know who a 30+ year old chick looks good to? A 50 year old guy. 40 year old chick, 60 year old guy. I'm just a messenger.
Girls, the flower wilts. Sexy has a shelf life, and guys are visually stimulated.
Ever wonder why you meet these crazy desperate 35 year old chicks who are shacked up with a crazy guy that treats them like dirt? This is why, right here. They know the flower has wilted, and they can't find anyone, so they settle for trash. I've seen it with my own eyes.
Stop telling your kids to wait until they are in their 30s to get married. It's a nightmare for them.
Taken...or gay... or lives 3000 miles from you.
Well I have been seeing a guy I dated like 6-7 years ago... don't ask me why.
So when I say that all the good ones are taken, it is true.
I also met an amazing Latina on a night out with a friend in October, of course she was gay
I have a feeling it is going the same route as it did then. Great guy, have a blast together, good chemistry.... but ... he has said that he still doesnt feel he "is in a good place" to put in the time a relationship deserves. Which is the issue we had before.
But I enjoy his company and we have fun when we go out so I am good with it for now...
So when I say that all the good ones are taken, it is true.
Yeah, generally.
Ironically just today, I heard two stories, that were exactly what I'm talking about. Listening to a radio call-in show, a lady calls in, and she is early 40s, and just married a guy early 40s.
She comes on... well he blows money whenever he wants, we have to keep separate accounts because he's irresponsible with money, he borrows money we can't really afford to, and says he can declare bankruptcy if the worst happens, and he has terrible habits and says he's not going to change them..... Oh but he's a really really nice guy, and very sweet.
Did you all catch that? He's in his 40s. He's been living as a single guy for 20 years or more.
You think that dude is going to merge his life with this girl? OF course not. He's set in his life habits. He's not changing anything at the age of 40+.
So the girl is miserable. Well why is she with him? Because she's desperate. She's single in her 40s, and is desperate. She doesn't want a guy in his 60s, and all the good guys her age, are married, or dating girls in their 20s and 30s. So she's stuck with this guy, and he's set in his ways, are they are miserable.
Then there was this chick dating a guy who was 38, and she was talking about how he sits around on the sofa. We dated for 2 years and he doesn't seem to want to improve his life at all. He's happy just watching TV, and can't hold a job, or build a career. How can I make him improve?
Duh.... you can't. He's 38 now. He's comfortable with the way he lives now. Your chance to influence how this guy grows up into a man, ended almost 20 years ago.
It reminded me of a third story of a girl, again in her 40s, married a dude in his 40s. After just one week of living in the same house, they had a huge fight, he packed his stuff, and went home.
Huh? So they started digging for information, this dude was still living with his mother. You find a guy who has lived with his mother for 40 years, and you think he's not extremely set in his ways? You think you are going to merge lives with this guy?
Why did this girl even consider this man? Because she's in her 40s. She can't find anyone. The guys that are good, are either already married, or they are looking at girls in their 20s and 30s. Not some 40+ year old chick. The only ones left are creeps, or screwed up like this dude.
I had to laugh when I was listening to the radio. Coincidence for sure, but that's a good random chance to have these stories pop up just after talking on this thread.
I also met an amazing Latina on a night out with a friend in October, of course she was gay
It's a sad thing. If at all possible..... and sometimes it isn't.... I would argue that you should try and restore the marriage you had. It's much easier to fix the crazy you know, than it is to fix crazy you never knew.
You will always have more influence with your original spouse, than you ever will with that new chick you think is great.
And by the way... Facebook, and internet romance is the absolute most deceptive type of relationship you can possibly have.
People can lie and deceive you in person for sure. Over the internet.... when you don't know almost anything about them (except for the mask of deception they put on facebook), the chances of them being something completely different than what you think they are is a MILLION times higher.
I highly doubt you have lost nearly as much as you think with that other chick who went after the lawyer.
If you really want crazy advice, find a really good church, and ask someone to match you on a date with some of the single chicks there. I know that sounds insane at first glance, but I have actually seen that work.
I have a feeling it is going the same route as it did then. Great guy, have a blast together, good chemistry.... but ... he has said that he still doesnt feel he "is in a good place" to put in the time a relationship deserves. Which is the issue we had before.
But I enjoy his company and we have fun when we go out so I am good with it for now...
First, I have no idea about you, or him, or your relationship.
But I would warn you of one thing. I've seen this before with other men specifically. It's a man thing.
If you, as woman, are available to him, whenever he wants to go out...... You are basically an unpaid adult escort.
*IF*... I don't know the situation. Just based on what you said right there... you are a call girl that isn't paid.
And here's the kicker. If he knows he can call you up whenever he wants you, and doesn't have to make any commitments, and you'll "go away" until the next time he calls.......
Please don't be mad, I'm just saying what I've seen....
.... He will never "feel he is in a good place to put in the time a relationship deserves"...... when doesn't have to. And right now... he doesn't have to. He can call his call-girl whenever he wants, and enjoy the company of a women when he wants it, and doesn't have to put any time into a real relationship that requires commitment.
And here's the other thing.... as long as you are "with" him whenever he calls for a night out... your chances of finding a man that wants something real.... very low.
Again, don't be mad. Just saying what I have seen. Just a messenger.
Lol wow. You are just a ray of sunshine.
I am actually ok with what it is now. We hang out when both our calendars permit it. I am not always available to him. He knows that I am not putting my dating life on hold hoping he will come around. He has always been a great guy. But I know his commitment issues. And I know it will probably never be a "good" time in his life. He is 43. As you said. Why change things if he is happy with having no commitment. I get that. He isn't the only one getting something out of this arrangement.
I have a feeling it is going the same route as it did then. Great guy, have a blast together, good chemistry.... but ... he has said that he still doesnt feel he "is in a good place" to put in the time a relationship deserves. Which is the issue we had before.
But I enjoy his company and we have fun when we go out so I am good with it for now...
First, I have no idea about you, or him, or your relationship.
But I would warn you of one thing. I've seen this before with other men specifically. It's a man thing.
If you, as woman, are available to him, whenever he wants to go out...... You are basically an unpaid adult escort.
*IF*... I don't know the situation. Just based on what you said right there... you are a call girl that isn't paid.
And here's the kicker. If he knows he can call you up whenever he wants you, and doesn't have to make any commitments, and you'll "go away" until the next time he calls.......
Please don't be mad, I'm just saying what I've seen....
.... He will never "feel he is in a good place to put in the time a relationship deserves"...... when doesn't have to. And right now... he doesn't have to. He can call his call-girl whenever he wants, and enjoy the company of a women when he wants it, and doesn't have to put any time into a real relationship that requires commitment.
And here's the other thing.... as long as you are "with" him whenever he calls for a night out... your chances of finding a man that wants something real.... very low.
Again, don't be mad. Just saying what I have seen. Just a messenger.
Well I wouldnt go as far as to call her an escort per say, but yeah if a man gets to have the same kind of fun you get in a relationship like hanging out, sex etc without actually being commited than yes its a big win for the man, and he will not want to commit, why should he? but if shes fine with it, their good to go I guess.