Singles bar

[High_Gravity]

WooT!!! Then look through the various groups, and start sending RSVP's. You're gonna have a fun summer, mister. Get out there and meet some peeps.

Drinking and going out to clubs and bars can be fun but I need to do something different, that can't be everything that I do.

With a little bit of luck, one day, when you least expect it, perhaps the woman of your dreams will walk into your life, and it will be a woman you didn't meet at a bar. Maybe it could be a woman with whom you get into a car wreck and the two of you are arguing about insurance policies. Or it can be a woman who sings in your church choir. Or a woman you help get up when her bike goes into a ditch.

My best buddy here met his wife through kick-boxing. That's a little unusual, maybe, maybe not, but they sure did hit it off.

You just never know.

I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

 

[High_Gravity]

Drinking and going out to clubs and bars can be fun but I need to do something different, that can't be everything that I do.

With a little bit of luck, one day, when you least expect it, perhaps the woman of your dreams will walk into your life, and it will be a woman you didn't meet at a bar. Maybe it could be a woman with whom you get into a car wreck and the two of you are arguing about insurance policies. Or it can be a woman who sings in your church choir. Or a woman you help get up when her bike goes into a ditch.

My best buddy here met his wife through kick-boxing. That's a little unusual, maybe, maybe not, but they sure did hit it off.

You just never know.

High_Gravity would meet women in a health-club and get in shape, at the same time. Juice bars are great convo-areas. The kind of women he would meet would be health-conscious women and their minds might appeal to him, as well as their other assets.

LOL I like the way you think!

 

[Statistikhengst]

Drinking and going out to clubs and bars can be fun but I need to do something different, that can't be everything that I do.

With a little bit of luck, one day, when you least expect it, perhaps the woman of your dreams will walk into your life, and it will be a woman you didn't meet at a bar. Maybe it could be a woman with whom you get into a car wreck and the two of you are arguing about insurance policies. Or it can be a woman who sings in your church choir. Or a woman you help get up when her bike goes into a ditch.

My best buddy here met his wife through kick-boxing. That's a little unusual, maybe, maybe not, but they sure did hit it off.

You just never know.

I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

That's excellent advice for all of us, I would say.

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

If you aren't happy with yourself, you'll never be happy with someone else.

 

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I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

So true, High. Focuss on yourself. Happiness comes from within. No one else can bring you happiness.

I would suggest keeping a daily journal. This was suggested to me years ago. Every day, at the times when you are feeling lonely or sad or depressed, enter the experience and what triggered the emotions into the daily journal. Do not reread the journal entries; put the journal aside every day for about one or two weeks.

At the end of the one/two week period, reread the journal and see if any patterns developed and what the triggers were that caused you to feel depressed or lonely. Then you can work on alleviating the triggers; so, for example, if every day at supper time, you feel lonely or depressed, do something differently, i.e. call a friend, go out to dinner, etc.

The exercise of keeping a journal is very therapeutic. It keeps you focussed, allows you to work out your feelings in writing, allows you the learn about yourself, and allows you to connect with your own heart.

 

[High_Gravity]

I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

So true, High. Focuss on yourself. Happiness comes from within. No one else can bring you happiness.

I would suggest keeping a daily journal. This was suggested to me years ago. Every day, at the times when you are feeling lonely or sad or depressed, enter the experience and what triggered the emotions into the daily journal. Do not reread the journal entries; put the journal aside every day for about one or two weeks.

At the end of the one/two week period, reread the journal and see if any patterns developed and what the triggers were that caused you to feel depressed or lonely. Then you can work on alleviating the triggers; so, for example, if every day at supper time, you feel lonely or depressed, do something differently, i.e. call a friend, go out to dinner, etc.

The exercise of keeping a journal is very therapeutic. It keeps you focussed, allows you to work out your feelings in writing, allows you the learn about yourself, and allows you to connect with your own heart.

Thats some good advice.

 

[High_Gravity]

I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

If you aren't happy with yourself, you'll never be happy with someone else.

You are damn right.

 

[Diana1180]

I just need to stop focusing so much on finding someone and just focus on trying to be happy right now.

If you aren't happy with yourself, you'll never be happy with someone else.

You are damn right.

Amen!

 

[Statistikhengst]

If you aren't happy with yourself, you'll never be happy with someone else.

You are damn right.

Amen!

Spot-on!

 

[Diana1180]

Not sure what it means when I am perfectly happy with myself and am single but hey.

Maybe I am just TOO awesome for the guys.

 

[High_Gravity]

Not sure what it means when I am perfectly happy with myself and am single but hey.

Maybe I am just TOO awesome for the guys.

Thats possible.

 

[Mr. H.]

Three of my siblings are single. I've often told them how I understand the difficulties and challenges of living the life of a single person, and then remind them they have no idea the difficulties and challenges of being married.

 

[Diana1180]

Three of my siblings are single. I've often told them how I understand the difficulties and challenges of living the life of a single person, and then remind them they have no idea the difficulties and challenges of being married.

In other words...the grass is not always greener on the other side

 

[Disir]

Three of my siblings are single. I've often told them how I understand the difficulties and challenges of living the life of a single person, and then remind them they have no idea the difficulties and challenges of being married.

I am single but not looking because I have been on both sides. There really isn't a down side to being single.

 

[High_Gravity]

Three of my siblings are single. I've often told them how I understand the difficulties and challenges of living the life of a single person, and then remind them they have no idea the difficulties and challenges of being married.

I am single but not looking because I have been on both sides. There really isn't a down side to being single.

Single is easier and less stressful, I don't miss dreading going home because I got into a fight with my gf or whatever.

 

[BDBoop]

Three of my siblings are single. I've often told them how I understand the difficulties and challenges of living the life of a single person, and then remind them they have no idea the difficulties and challenges of being married.

I am single but not looking because I have been on both sides. There really isn't a down side to being single.

Single is easier and less stressful, I don't miss dreading going home because I got into a fight with my gf or whatever.

I don't miss waiting for the other shoe to drop. The silent treatment. The little digs that I turned a blind eye to because I loved him and was trying to give him more credit than he deserved, really.

 

[High_Gravity]

I am single but not looking because I have been on both sides. There really isn't a down side to being single.

Single is easier and less stressful, I don't miss dreading going home because I got into a fight with my gf or whatever.

I don't miss waiting for the other shoe to drop. The silent treatment. The little digs that I turned a blind eye to because I loved him and was trying to give him more credit than he deserved, really.

Relationships sound like crap, so why do we have this drive to pursue relationships? I know I do, even if its just something casual.

 

[High_Gravity]

Ok so I'm registered in Meet up, I am part of a wine group here and a nightlife group, I'm going to look into others today.

 

[Diana1180]

Single is easier and less stressful, I don't miss dreading going home because I got into a fight with my gf or whatever.

I don't miss waiting for the other shoe to drop. The silent treatment. The little digs that I turned a blind eye to because I loved him and was trying to give him more credit than he deserved, really.

Relationships sound like crap, so why do we have this drive to pursue relationships? I know I do, even if its just something casual.

Because when they are good...they are real good.

Every relationship/ marriage/ partnership has their rough patches.

If the rough patches vastly outnumber the good times...then its not a relationship.

 

[BDBoop]

Ok so I'm registered in Meet up, I am part of a wine group here and a nightlife group, I'm going to look into others today.

Very cool!

My favorite one here is "Get Out, Get Social." 5144 members.