Yet I have raised two good kids without ever hitting them. I am not a lazy parent, I have raised them without ever using the threat of violence. How can you use violence on someone you love?
The fact that you label spanking violent tells me you raised a couple of wimps that need the full protection of government to survive.
You disagree with me, so you insult my lovely, well behaved children. What type of person are you? That was rhetorical.
You insulted every parent that spanks their child and claim moral indignation? What kind of hypocrite are you?
actually every parent who has done that risks ******* up their child even more.
Every psychiatrist will tell you not to spank kids and show you that it does more harm then good, when simple communication and other forms of consequenses can be just as effective. Do you still want to continue or should i take it a step further? If you still say that you believe in spanking kids after hearing this and knowing this then you must enjoy it. That makes it borderline abuse. No parent like spanking their child and if there was away around it they'd be all for it.
Want to continue or do you want to save your dignity?
Let's please continue, it's always amusing when some fool thinks he's smarter than he is.
Letters from a psychiatrist about spanking.
For your interest and possible use, I can share with you that in my professional work as a Board Certified Psychiatrist, that I have interviewed a few hundred children personally and have discussed spanking with them. None, that's right, absolutely none viewed spanking per se as abusive in anyway. The factors which affected their subjective assessment of 'being abused' were (1) setting; (2) rational behavior of the spanker; and (3)logical association between the degree of spanking and the wrong committed. To be more specific, if the child were spanked because the parent had been drunk and ill tempered then that was viewed as abusive even if mild in intensity. On the other hand, several describe being spanked with ropes and other rather ominous instruments, but had been spanked for 'smoking in the barn' - risking fire and health dangers, and thus deserving the "thrashing"or for "playing with gasoline and matches" and similar violations. Every single one of these children stated that they were far more upset by being yelled at by an adult out of control than they had been by being spanked by an adult in control and as a logical consequence of misbehavior. I believe that it is fair to say that there are a few middle to upper class boys who are so well behaved and controlled that it is possible to rear them without even the threat of corporal punishment,
but for the majority, it is actually silly to believe that one can properly discipline and control a normal boy who should be pushing the limits without at least the credible threat of a few pops to his backside. Individuals who claim that they can control boys without any threat of a spanking are either lying or have simply never dealt with the Tom Sawyer, aggressive, macho, or simple "normal boy" types. They are either childless or they have been around the ultra controlled, intellectual type--or even what could be called the 'sissy or wimp' types. The average, ordinary, challenging type of boy will often intentionally push the envelope until he earns a few pops. With those pops he feels proud that he has had the courage to test the limits. It is absolute nonsense to suggest that parents using a loving approach, using logic, and having some education and common sense on when and how to spank children can, in anyway, harm the child. One could not say that it would "never" take place, but I can say, that in hundreds of instances, I have found the result to be absolutely zero.
At the same time, I can share with you that the 'politically correct' pressures are so high and child protection workers are so extreme, that I must remain anonymous with this communication. However, if you need further comments, I would be glad to respond to you. I have sent this what whatever possible use that you may have for it. Sincerely yours,
A Board Certified Psychiatrist
benign1@email.com
