It's a high bar to be gay-phobic in any substantial way. Just like it's a high bar to be a genuine certified racist. Anything under that bar is not a real threat if you live your life as TOLERANT of other peoples decisions. As a raised Jew -- I'm not even believing that even 1/2 the stuff being called "anti-semitic" truly is. A lot of that is just uncured stupidity or over-wokeness.
Tolerance and patience is the best defense against opinions and decisions made by others.
BUT -- in this case, a LARGE MAJORITY of the "self-declared" identities of DOZENS OF GENDERS -- IS MAKING CONSCIOUS CHOICE. The best example is the "B" in LGBTQ. Those folks make DIFFERENT conscious "orientation" choices every other relationship.
Or see my "coming out" thread in Flame Zone that I started on April's Fools for an EXAMPLE of "conscious sexual orientation" choice that has NO basis in logic, reason, science or saneness.