Ask her if losing an eight week old fetus is equal to losing a two year old child and get back to us.why don't you try to find, just for laughs, a woman who has lost a toddler and also lost a fetus. it is highly probable that one of the mothers of the shot children also had a spontaneous abortion previously.
then ask her your really interesting question, for laughs. and to gleam insight.
I have known a woman who has lost a child stillborn in the 8 month and a 16 month old, not by gunshot but by illness. She grieves for them both deeply.
Do you believe you speak for all parents? I do not.
My wife had 3 miscarriages and we did not look at any of them as losing a child.